1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:03,360 ALISSA: I'm so excited to show David around my home town! 2 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:04,600 We're here! 3 00:00:04,720 --> 00:00:07,920 NARRATOR: When the couples took off across the country... 4 00:00:08,040 --> 00:00:09,200 Whoo! 5 00:00:09,320 --> 00:00:12,200 ..they tasted married life beyond the experiment. 6 00:00:12,320 --> 00:00:15,200 You've always told me, "Don't come here to Sydney for me." 7 00:00:15,320 --> 00:00:17,320 Well, I'm open to moving now. 8 00:00:17,440 --> 00:00:18,480 And for Steven... 9 00:00:18,600 --> 00:00:20,520 I must admit, I kind of like holding a rod and getting kissed. 10 00:00:20,640 --> 00:00:21,760 (LAUGHS) 11 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:24,840 ..he gave Rachel the reassurance she needed 12 00:00:24,960 --> 00:00:26,440 to begin their next chapter together 13 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:29,880 What I see is a life outside the experiment. 14 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:33,880 It really reaffirms the feelings are real, the feelings are mutual. 15 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:35,760 Mwah. (LAUGHS) 16 00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:39,280 My feelings are, like... they're pretty gone. 17 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:42,000 Emotions ran high for some... 18 00:00:42,120 --> 00:00:44,680 You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it. 19 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:47,880 ..and despite winning over her nearest and dearest... 20 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:50,120 David is everything that you've asked for. 21 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:52,200 I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it. 22 00:00:52,320 --> 00:00:57,000 ..David still felt he wasn't able to be the calm to Alissa's storm. 23 00:00:57,120 --> 00:01:00,000 DAVID: She still sees negatives. There's nothing else I can do. 24 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:03,640 What's that? Why is it pink? Is it your ex's or something? 25 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:05,520 And on the Gold Coast... 26 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:07,560 I see you being pressured. You need to be able to voice your concerns. 27 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:09,880 Are you scared about her reaction? Pretty much. 28 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:13,160 ..Scott struggled to voice his issues with Gia. 29 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,560 I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells, you know what I mean? 30 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:17,240 OK, Scott. No, no, what I'm saying is, like... 31 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:19,000 I didn't know you want to argue today. 32 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:22,560 Tonight... (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 33 00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:23,880 JOHN: Now, in just a short time, 34 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:25,160 you have one of the biggest decisions 35 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:26,800 that you're going to have to make - 36 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:31,920 whether or not you can take this relationship into the real world 37 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:33,960 and make it a success. 38 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:35,160 MEL: Welcome. 39 00:01:35,280 --> 00:01:38,640 It's the last commitment ceremony of the experiment... 40 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:41,160 This is a very pivotal night. 41 00:01:41,280 --> 00:01:46,800 ..and after two months of marriage, uncomfortable truths will be exposed 42 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:49,960 I want a partner who can have a constructive conversation with me 43 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:51,280 about an issue. 44 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:52,920 I can't mind-read! It's not mind-reading. 45 00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:54,000 It's not mind-reading. Oh, my gosh. 46 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:55,080 I can't. I cannot... See? Boom. 47 00:01:55,200 --> 00:01:59,320 David reveals what's really going on in his relationship with Alissa. 48 00:02:01,200 --> 00:02:03,280 She called you a weak man? Yeah. 49 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:05,000 So that's a problem. 50 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:07,040 No, no, no, do not blame me. 51 00:02:07,160 --> 00:02:09,920 After weeks of giving her heart to Danny... 52 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:13,800 I'm not going to walk down to final vows with someone 53 00:02:13,920 --> 00:02:15,200 that's a maybe about me. 54 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:18,400 ..is this the night Bec finally calls it quits? 55 00:02:18,520 --> 00:02:21,840 I'm not doing it. I'm not. 56 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:22,800 And then... 57 00:02:22,920 --> 00:02:24,440 What I'm seeing here is fake. 58 00:02:25,880 --> 00:02:28,640 I'm going to call you out. I've seen it the entire experiment. 59 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:32,520 If you don't let us in, you're not going to last. 60 00:02:32,640 --> 00:02:34,760 ..it's Scott's moment of truth. 61 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:39,720 (EXHALES) 62 00:02:40,920 --> 00:02:44,320 What I'm going to talk about tonight is... I don't want you to be upset. 63 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:49,800 What I'm going to talk about is feelings where...I... 64 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:56,080 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 65 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:57,240 (GULPS) 66 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:05,760 (BRIGHT CLASSICAL MUSIC PLAYS) 67 00:03:11,040 --> 00:03:14,440 It's the morning of the final commitment ceremony... 68 00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:17,080 STELLA: Yummy. FILIP: Want some caffeine? 69 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:18,920 (LAUGHS) Cheers. Yeah. 70 00:03:19,040 --> 00:03:21,040 ..and after eight weeks in the experiment, 71 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:23,480 tonight marks the last time 72 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:26,840 the couples will come face to face with the experts. 73 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:29,320 How'd you sleep? Yeah, I slept really well. 74 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:30,920 Really, really well. 75 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:33,680 I love our little midnight makeout sessions. 76 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:35,760 Some people have chats. We have makeout sessions. 77 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:36,880 We have makeout sessions. Yeah. 78 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:38,400 (LAUGHS) I love it. 79 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:41,200 This week, during homestays, the couples were tested 80 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:45,760 as they prepare for a life outside the experiment. 81 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:47,400 It was good. I'm just enjoying the last couple of weeks. 82 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:50,160 Stella and Filip continue to evolve as a couple, 83 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:54,000 having said "I love you." 84 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:59,360 Rachel and Steven have been slower to open their hearts, 85 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:02,120 but day by day their connection grows. 86 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:05,240 It was really good to tell everyone about our homestays 87 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:09,560 and even reflecting on it, like, after last night's dinner party, 88 00:04:09,680 --> 00:04:15,440 do I dare say that we're one of the strongest in the group now? 89 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:18,480 Dare to say it, babes, because I've been saying it. 90 00:04:18,600 --> 00:04:19,840 (BOTH LAUGH) 91 00:04:19,960 --> 00:04:21,320 Oh! 92 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:29,120 For Alissa and David, homestays has exposed cracks in their relationship 93 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:30,680 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 94 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:33,840 ALISSA: I feel like David and I have been a strong couple 95 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:35,160 throughout this experiment. 96 00:04:35,280 --> 00:04:37,280 I still believe we are because we have each other's backs. 97 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:39,840 It's just hot. Be careful. 98 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:41,960 You know, we have been honest with each other about a lot of things, 99 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:45,080 but since homestays, it's taken a turn. 100 00:04:45,200 --> 00:04:49,360 We have had deep conversations, big conversations 101 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:51,600 and David's maybe held back from saying 102 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:53,520 what he really felt in that moment, 103 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:55,360 or questioning what I meant in that moment. 104 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,640 And now, towards the end of the experiment, it's all coming out. 105 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:00,520 DAVID: How are you feeling? 106 00:05:00,640 --> 00:05:03,840 Um... I'm feeling... 107 00:05:05,080 --> 00:05:06,200 like... 108 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:09,320 we've got a lot going on right now at the moment. 109 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:12,080 Just, uh...we're not really understanding each other. 110 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:13,080 Yeah. 111 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:17,240 I feel like we have a lot to unpack and a lot to, you know, break down 112 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:18,760 and, yeah, there are some cracks 113 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:21,040 and, you know, the pressure of the experiment ending, 114 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:25,560 it's definitely taken its toll on me. 115 00:05:26,680 --> 00:05:28,920 I felt in homestay... Yeah. 116 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:31,840 ..that I'm, like, "OK, he's keen to move to Adelaide. 117 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:33,920 "Wait. Haven't met his family. Wait. Haven't met his friends. 118 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:35,960 "Oh, wait, I don't even know... He's got multiple jobs. 119 00:05:36,080 --> 00:05:38,240 "Like, I don't know if he's stable. I want to have a family..." 120 00:05:38,360 --> 00:05:39,840 Like, this is me spiralling 121 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:42,600 because I'm, like, "Is this too good to be true?" 122 00:05:42,720 --> 00:05:44,200 Obviously homestays is quite late, 123 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:45,680 but it's brought up a lot of other things 124 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:48,000 that we should have dealt with a long time ago. 125 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:49,720 Like, have the... have the conversations 126 00:05:49,840 --> 00:05:51,840 if you don't agree with something 127 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:54,720 or have the conversation or ask the questions when you don't understand 128 00:05:54,840 --> 00:05:56,560 something that I've said. Well, all I'm going to say is I... 129 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:58,640 We should have gone there, but we haven't 130 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:02,400 and I haven't felt, like, challenged enough. 131 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:03,480 I'm with you on that... 132 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:05,480 You need to break through that softness and be strong with me, 133 00:06:05,600 --> 00:06:08,200 'cause I want to be a team with you and talk things through. 134 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:10,600 And, um, you know, like... 135 00:06:10,720 --> 00:06:12,200 DAVID: It's so frustrating to sit here 136 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:15,520 trying to express my side of the story 137 00:06:15,640 --> 00:06:17,240 and I can hardly get a word in. 138 00:06:17,360 --> 00:06:19,120 I feel like there are... I think there was a... 139 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:20,800 All I'll say is... There are cracks. 140 00:06:20,920 --> 00:06:22,120 There was...there was a bit of... 141 00:06:22,240 --> 00:06:26,360 Like, the last couple of days, what I've been struggling with 142 00:06:26,480 --> 00:06:28,880 is I haven't been as, like, willing 143 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:30,960 to have those... Hard conversations. 144 00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:33,480 ..hard conversations with you about how I was feeling. 145 00:06:33,600 --> 00:06:36,880 But, babe, like, if you don't talk to me about your reservations, 146 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:38,880 that's not healthy, babe. 147 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:40,320 Yeah. Talk to me! 148 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:42,240 Well... We need to voice! We... 149 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:44,400 And that's what I need in this relationship. And that's... 150 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:45,960 You're not fulfilling that need for me 151 00:06:46,080 --> 00:06:50,560 and I believe that it's right to put it all out on the table. 152 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:52,240 I think... I never want to have to hold back. 153 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:53,960 I don't think it's that... it's that you hold back, 154 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:56,600 but I think one thing about you is you hold on too much and then... 155 00:06:56,720 --> 00:06:57,640 Babe, I know, but... 156 00:06:57,760 --> 00:06:58,640 Babe, you... Babe... 157 00:06:58,760 --> 00:07:00,440 (SIGHS) 158 00:07:00,560 --> 00:07:02,000 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 159 00:07:02,120 --> 00:07:04,560 You're spiralling within yourself... No, I'm not. Are you done? 160 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:06,400 ..you know what I mean? I can't even get a word in. 161 00:07:06,520 --> 00:07:09,080 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 162 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:10,680 DAVID: I feel like it's a slap in the face. 163 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:14,600 Alissa says she wants a hard, challenging conversation 164 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:15,920 and she's wanted this for a long time. 165 00:07:16,040 --> 00:07:18,520 But it's not just like that with Alissa. It's not. 166 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:20,640 Respect is only on her terms 167 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:23,760 and the relationship only goes her way or the highway. 168 00:07:23,880 --> 00:07:25,760 So that is a big deal-breaker for me as well... 169 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:28,160 DAVID: It is the first time where I feel like 170 00:07:28,280 --> 00:07:32,040 both of us are very disconnected, 171 00:07:32,160 --> 00:07:35,560 a lot more than we ever have going into a commitment ceremony. 172 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:38,000 And tonight, I'm just going to be completely honest 173 00:07:38,120 --> 00:07:40,520 because I've hit my limit 174 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:42,800 and I'm not going to, like, hold back. 175 00:07:42,920 --> 00:07:44,640 I'm just going to put it all on the table. 176 00:07:49,160 --> 00:07:50,320 As for Danny... 177 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:55,760 his controversial views resulted in a tense argument with Bec 178 00:07:55,880 --> 00:07:57,960 at last night's dinner party. 179 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:02,280 It makes you feel like a bit of a bitch moving in with a woman. 180 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:04,200 What are you on about? 181 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:06,000 He's talking about feeling emasculated 182 00:08:06,120 --> 00:08:09,280 if she was the one who owned the house. 183 00:08:10,520 --> 00:08:11,680 (BLEEP) me! 184 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:13,360 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 185 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:18,480 And this morning, they are still struggling to resolve the issue. 186 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:19,800 People can feel how they want to feel. 187 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:21,240 You know what I mean? 188 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:25,240 Whether other people agree with it or not, like, it's not up to them. 189 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:26,560 This is how I feel... Mm. 190 00:08:26,680 --> 00:08:28,480 ..and I feel like moving in with a woman 191 00:08:28,600 --> 00:08:31,360 just doesn't feel very manly of me, you know. 192 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:33,440 Yeah. 193 00:08:33,560 --> 00:08:35,600 You don't understand. I do understand. 194 00:08:35,720 --> 00:08:38,320 I get what you're saying, but I suppose... 195 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:42,360 if we're talking about creating a life together 196 00:08:42,480 --> 00:08:43,640 after this experiment, 197 00:08:43,760 --> 00:08:46,920 then you're gonna have to get over that. 198 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:50,280 (SCOFFS) Am I right or am I right? 199 00:08:51,520 --> 00:08:54,760 The funny thing is, with Bec, when she feels a kind of way, 200 00:08:54,880 --> 00:08:56,240 it's a completely valid feeling. 201 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:57,920 That's how she feels. 202 00:08:58,040 --> 00:09:01,080 But when I say it makes me feel this way, 203 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:03,240 "Oh, no. But no.... But that's not right." 204 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:05,000 It's not actually to do with you being a woman. 205 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:08,880 I wouldn't move in with anyone and just, like, freeload off them. 206 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:11,800 You pay the bills, I'll pay the mortgage. We're done. Easy. 207 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:13,200 Finito. 208 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:15,840 Other than that, we had a great night. 209 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:18,200 So, yeah... 210 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:22,120 And whilst Bec and Danny continue to disagree, 211 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:23,920 our other couples are preparing 212 00:09:24,040 --> 00:09:27,400 for the final commitment ceremony of the experiment. 213 00:09:28,520 --> 00:09:31,040 FILIP: You look great. STELLA: You too. 214 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:34,840 Yep. Yeah. Very pure, you know. 215 00:09:34,960 --> 00:09:36,280 Yeah. Yeah. 216 00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:38,400 Very appropriate. (LAUGHS) Very appropriate. 217 00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:43,600 As our couples face the experts for the last time, 218 00:09:43,720 --> 00:09:47,320 a defining choice awaits. 219 00:09:47,440 --> 00:09:50,760 Tonight, they must decide - 220 00:09:50,880 --> 00:09:54,920 stay in the experiment through to final vows 221 00:09:55,040 --> 00:09:58,600 or walk away from their marriages for good. 222 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:03,640 For Scott, the pressure is mounting. 223 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:09,920 He feels it is now or never to revea his true feelings to his bride Gia. 224 00:10:10,040 --> 00:10:14,400 Final commitment ceremony tonight. Crazy, isn't it? 225 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:18,480 Yeah. Can you believe that we've made it this far? 226 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:22,560 I... Yeah, I definitely didn't imagine it. 227 00:10:22,680 --> 00:10:26,120 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 228 00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:28,000 I do think we had a great week. 229 00:10:28,120 --> 00:10:30,400 I don't think we're going to have too much feedback tonight. 230 00:10:30,520 --> 00:10:32,880 I think it was great. 231 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:35,080 Like, I can't fault homestays. It went really well. 232 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:37,360 Positive, good vibes, you know, 233 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:41,080 so hopefully not getting grilled hard tonight. 234 00:10:41,200 --> 00:10:44,200 I feel like I've been hit a bit throughout this experiment 235 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:46,040 from the experts. 236 00:10:46,160 --> 00:10:47,360 Yeah. 237 00:10:47,480 --> 00:10:48,600 Yeah. 238 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:51,640 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 239 00:10:51,760 --> 00:10:53,000 What else? 240 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:54,320 (LAUGHS) 241 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:58,520 (SIGHS) I get nervous going to the commitment ceremony... 242 00:10:58,640 --> 00:10:59,680 (LAUGHS) 243 00:10:59,800 --> 00:11:02,840 ..because I still can't be 100% myself 244 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:05,640 and I feel like I just can't have a voice sometimes 245 00:11:05,760 --> 00:11:07,600 because she thinks we're gonna have an argument. 246 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:08,800 And I want her to be able to understand 247 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:10,240 that we need to speak amicably, 248 00:11:10,360 --> 00:11:12,680 knowing that if I have a concern or she has a concern, 249 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:14,760 we can talk and it's not going to lead to a disaster. 250 00:11:14,880 --> 00:11:16,240 You've got to be able to communicate. 251 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:18,000 So are you ready for tonight? 252 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:21,400 I don't like commitment ceremonies, you know that. 253 00:11:21,520 --> 00:11:22,640 Yeah. 254 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:24,960 I feel like we're at the point where, you know, 255 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:26,520 we're almost falling in love. 256 00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:28,320 Yeah. 257 00:11:28,440 --> 00:11:30,080 SCOTT: And I feel like if she feels more than me 258 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:32,080 and she doesn't get anything back from me, 259 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:35,320 she'll start spiralling and start saying 'harshful' things to me. 260 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:37,120 Very 'harshful' things. 261 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:44,280 And so then I feel like I can't talk and I go quiet 262 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:45,680 and I go flat. 263 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:48,880 That retracts me every time. 264 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:50,440 And that's what pushes me away from falling in love 265 00:11:50,560 --> 00:11:51,680 and I don't think she understands that. 266 00:11:51,800 --> 00:11:54,240 So you just got to look at the positives, you know. 267 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:57,080 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 268 00:11:57,200 --> 00:11:58,960 Personally, I'd love to speak up and share everything 269 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:01,440 because it's good to get feedback. 270 00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:04,200 But there's another side of me 271 00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:05,560 where I feel like I want to protect my wife. 272 00:12:05,680 --> 00:12:08,240 I don't want her to feel unstable, upset 273 00:12:08,360 --> 00:12:10,560 or, you know, get nervous or have a breakdown. 274 00:12:10,680 --> 00:12:12,440 So, you know, I think, how's she going to react 275 00:12:12,560 --> 00:12:13,520 if I say these things? 276 00:12:13,640 --> 00:12:15,920 Alright. See you in there. 277 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:18,640 Bye. 278 00:12:18,760 --> 00:12:21,120 Sometimes I'm like, well, "I'm just not going to talk about it." 279 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:24,240 I'm just in the air. I don't know what to do. 280 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:26,280 Bye. Bye. 281 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:31,800 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 282 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:45,600 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 283 00:12:45,720 --> 00:12:47,520 MEL: Hello. ALESSANDRA: Hi. 284 00:12:47,640 --> 00:12:48,960 MAN: How are you guys? 285 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:50,640 Welcome. Very well. Welcome. 286 00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:52,080 Hello, guys. 287 00:12:52,200 --> 00:12:54,240 Hi. MAN: Hello. 288 00:12:54,360 --> 00:12:55,680 Good evening. Welcome. Hi. 289 00:12:55,800 --> 00:12:58,560 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 290 00:12:58,680 --> 00:13:00,080 Oh... 291 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:02,720 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 292 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:14,200 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 293 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:19,200 Hello, ladies. WOMAN: Hello. 294 00:13:19,320 --> 00:13:21,440 And Chris. Hi. 295 00:13:21,560 --> 00:13:25,640 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 296 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:34,520 Welcome, everybody, to the very fina commitment ceremony 297 00:13:34,640 --> 00:13:36,240 of this experiment. 298 00:13:36,360 --> 00:13:40,360 Now, this is a very, very pivotal night 299 00:13:40,480 --> 00:13:43,160 because it is the very last time 300 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:45,440 that you get to sit in front of the experts 301 00:13:45,560 --> 00:13:48,080 and to hear the feedback that we have for you. 302 00:13:50,120 --> 00:13:53,120 Now, in just a short time, you have one of the biggest decisions 303 00:13:53,240 --> 00:13:55,120 that you're going to have to make - 304 00:13:55,240 --> 00:13:58,640 whether or not you can take this relationship in the experiment 305 00:13:58,760 --> 00:14:00,040 into the real world 306 00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:01,440 and make it a success. 307 00:14:02,680 --> 00:14:04,600 And as we know as experts, 308 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:08,560 if you are not completely vulnerable with your partner 309 00:14:08,680 --> 00:14:11,760 at this stage of the experiment, 310 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:15,040 then your relationship will crumble on the outside. 311 00:14:15,160 --> 00:14:17,080 It will not last. 312 00:14:18,720 --> 00:14:23,480 Now, with that being said, let's get our first couple up. 313 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:26,200 (TENSE MUSIC PLAYS) 314 00:14:27,640 --> 00:14:29,360 Alissa and David. 315 00:14:29,480 --> 00:14:33,200 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) (APPLAUSE) 316 00:14:39,080 --> 00:14:41,040 MEL: Hello. ALISSA: Hello. 317 00:14:42,800 --> 00:14:45,520 So, how are things? 318 00:14:45,640 --> 00:14:50,080 Um... You know what, last time we were on the couch, 319 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:52,320 things were moving in the right direction. 320 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:53,680 They still are. 321 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:55,600 But we do have some hiccups 322 00:14:55,720 --> 00:14:58,240 that we're trying to work through at the moment. 323 00:14:58,360 --> 00:14:59,640 OK. 324 00:14:59,760 --> 00:15:03,120 Um... Obviously, I'll start by saying, you know, 325 00:15:03,240 --> 00:15:04,640 Alissa is an amazing girl, 326 00:15:04,760 --> 00:15:09,840 but personally, I feel like I have, you know, 327 00:15:09,960 --> 00:15:13,040 carried a lot of the emotional weight in the relationship. 328 00:15:13,160 --> 00:15:15,600 This is just how I feel. (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 329 00:15:15,720 --> 00:15:18,560 What do you mean when you say carried most of the emotional weight 330 00:15:18,680 --> 00:15:21,320 I feel like there has been times 331 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:24,840 where I personally put my emotions aside 332 00:15:24,960 --> 00:15:28,360 just to make sure that there was just peace. 333 00:15:29,680 --> 00:15:33,120 And this is a thing where, like, I have tried to bring something up 334 00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:35,240 at the start of the relationship to Alissa 335 00:15:35,360 --> 00:15:37,360 and I felt like she was not receptive to it. 336 00:15:38,720 --> 00:15:42,920 So, what that ended up doing for me was making me be more cautious 337 00:15:43,040 --> 00:15:44,520 of bringing stuff up to her. 338 00:15:44,640 --> 00:15:45,600 Mm-hm. 339 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:51,320 It was more the reaction of, is it going to become an argument 340 00:15:51,440 --> 00:15:53,080 that was going to go out of hand? 341 00:15:55,280 --> 00:15:58,800 So, what happened with all of that emotion, as you describe it? 342 00:15:58,920 --> 00:16:00,520 If you weren't expressing that to Alissa, 343 00:16:00,640 --> 00:16:02,960 what were you doing with it? 344 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:10,320 Well, anything little that I didn't really care about 345 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:12,040 didn't really affect me, so I'd brush over it. 346 00:16:12,160 --> 00:16:16,120 But what happened in homestays was I feel like it triggered me. 347 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:17,200 OK. 348 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:19,120 I was saying Adelaide is a liveable place, 349 00:16:19,240 --> 00:16:25,120 but I felt like Alissa was being a bit negative...about the move. 350 00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:28,400 I feel like she was pointing out all of the reasons why it won't work 351 00:16:28,520 --> 00:16:29,680 which are all valid. 352 00:16:29,800 --> 00:16:32,800 We all know that there is things to work out in the real world, 353 00:16:32,920 --> 00:16:36,200 but it felt like for me she was too in her head about it 354 00:16:36,320 --> 00:16:37,960 that it's affecting me right now. 355 00:16:38,080 --> 00:16:40,640 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 356 00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:43,800 ALISSA: Do you know why? 357 00:16:43,920 --> 00:16:47,240 Because I'm feeling very frustrated at this part of the experiment. 358 00:16:47,360 --> 00:16:49,440 This is our last couch session 359 00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:51,520 and I'm feeling like there has been some hold-back. 360 00:16:51,640 --> 00:16:54,600 And some of our couch sessions could have been things 361 00:16:54,720 --> 00:16:57,040 that we could be working through if we had more open conversations. 362 00:16:57,160 --> 00:17:00,720 I feel like he doesn't want to have, like, conflict 363 00:17:00,840 --> 00:17:04,280 but I feel like there is healthy conflict resolution, 364 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:06,960 otherwise my relationship, in my eyes, this is too good to be true. 365 00:17:07,080 --> 00:17:09,640 Can I just state, 366 00:17:09,760 --> 00:17:14,160 I want a partner who can have a constructive conversation with me 367 00:17:14,280 --> 00:17:15,360 about an issue... 368 00:17:16,760 --> 00:17:19,000 but a partner that shuts you down 369 00:17:19,120 --> 00:17:21,440 and tells you what they're saying is bible, 370 00:17:21,560 --> 00:17:22,680 it is an issue. 371 00:17:22,800 --> 00:17:24,800 When have I actually spoken down on you in a bad way? 372 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:26,920 Like, I don't... Well, there's things you've said... 373 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:29,280 I don't want to... I don't want to, like... 374 00:17:29,400 --> 00:17:31,640 Well, an example could be helpful for Alissa here. 375 00:17:33,040 --> 00:17:34,280 Well, she has... 376 00:17:37,800 --> 00:17:40,800 She called you a weak man? Yeah. 377 00:17:40,920 --> 00:17:42,040 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 378 00:17:42,160 --> 00:17:44,000 So that's a problem. 379 00:17:44,120 --> 00:17:45,840 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 380 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:56,880 (TENSE MUSIC PLAYS) 381 00:17:58,760 --> 00:17:59,840 Well, she has... 382 00:18:03,680 --> 00:18:06,280 She called you a weak man? Yeah. 383 00:18:06,400 --> 00:18:07,920 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 384 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:09,880 So that's a problem. 385 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:14,000 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 386 00:18:14,120 --> 00:18:16,600 What was the context around that? 387 00:18:18,160 --> 00:18:21,480 It was in one of our talks about, like, she's got assets, 388 00:18:21,600 --> 00:18:24,800 She's ahead in life and she wants a guy that can match that. 389 00:18:24,920 --> 00:18:27,440 So, financially weak? Yeah. 390 00:18:27,560 --> 00:18:29,200 How did it feel when she said that? 391 00:18:29,320 --> 00:18:30,760 Well, I just thought, "Where's this coming from?" 392 00:18:30,880 --> 00:18:33,160 And the thing about me is, like, 393 00:18:33,280 --> 00:18:36,600 I pick what I want to, like, get upset about and I didn't. 394 00:18:36,720 --> 00:18:39,960 Maybe I should have combated that at the time. 395 00:18:40,080 --> 00:18:42,560 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 396 00:18:43,760 --> 00:18:45,320 Alissa, what was going on for you? 397 00:18:45,440 --> 00:18:48,280 What did you want to achieve from saying that to him? 398 00:18:48,400 --> 00:18:52,760 I was getting frustrated because I'm wanting more from David. 399 00:18:52,880 --> 00:18:54,600 I'm wanting to see more from him 400 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:58,400 and I feel like I want to be strong together as a couple. 401 00:18:58,520 --> 00:18:59,720 I think where I'm struggling is 402 00:18:59,840 --> 00:19:03,000 it's she wants me to be strong on her timeline 403 00:19:03,120 --> 00:19:08,840 and that's where it feels like it is your way or you're not happy. 404 00:19:10,040 --> 00:19:12,640 David, do you feel like you're enough for Alissa? 405 00:19:12,760 --> 00:19:14,080 I feel like I'm 100% enough. 406 00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:17,600 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 407 00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:19,480 Do you think she thinks you're enough? 408 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:20,680 I think she does. 409 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:23,880 But the questions that I am getting are, like...they are confusing me. 410 00:19:24,000 --> 00:19:26,680 So, what are these questions that are confusing you? 411 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:30,840 Well, the first thing is she's wondering like, you know, 412 00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:32,920 energy, like in five years or whatever - 413 00:19:33,040 --> 00:19:34,640 is that going to be enough to sustain her? 414 00:19:34,760 --> 00:19:38,960 And she has said to me, "If I'm not getting the fix I need, 415 00:19:39,080 --> 00:19:41,000 "I'll go look elsewhere," essentially. 416 00:19:41,120 --> 00:19:42,040 No, I didn't say that! 417 00:19:42,160 --> 00:19:45,600 She said, "I'm hungry. You need to feed me. You need to feed me." 418 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:50,840 I'm wanting to, like, have open-ended conversations and stuff. 419 00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:53,920 I'm wanting to go deep. Like, I'm putting all my cards on the table. 420 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:56,160 I'm very direct. Like, I'll talk about stuff. 421 00:19:56,280 --> 00:20:00,560 I need some sort of fuel. Like, it's just... It's what I like. 422 00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:05,320 But I don't know if our relationship is going to last in the real world 423 00:20:05,440 --> 00:20:06,760 if this is the gap. 424 00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:09,640 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 425 00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:12,480 I don't know if we're going to be a good match long term 426 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:14,200 if this is the energy, 427 00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:16,280 because I need to see David in his element. 428 00:20:16,400 --> 00:20:18,000 I need to see David with his family. 429 00:20:18,120 --> 00:20:20,240 I need to see David with his friends. I need to see what he does. 430 00:20:20,360 --> 00:20:21,680 Like, I want to have a family in the next few years. 431 00:20:21,800 --> 00:20:24,640 (TENSE MUSIC PLAYS) 432 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:30,720 And, like, if...if we want to talk about me 433 00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:31,800 seeing things work in the real world, 434 00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:33,600 what I need to see as well 435 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:36,080 is if someone says they want to have open-ended conversations, 436 00:20:36,200 --> 00:20:37,320 that has to be it. 437 00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:39,920 What's happened in this relationship is I've done a lot of listening, 438 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:41,880 Alissa has done a lot of talking. 439 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:44,080 That's the fact... You need to speak up, babe! 440 00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:46,040 No, no, no. But, like... It's... I don't... 441 00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:49,240 One thing about me is I think we're both adults 442 00:20:49,360 --> 00:20:52,280 and I want to see that in her, 443 00:20:52,400 --> 00:20:53,680 that she has the ability to listen... 444 00:20:53,800 --> 00:20:55,320 I can't mind-read. I can't mind-read. 445 00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:56,640 It's not mind-reading. It's not mind-reading. 446 00:20:56,760 --> 00:20:58,440 Oh, my gosh. I can't. I cannot... See? Boom. 447 00:20:58,560 --> 00:20:59,640 I know. I can't mind-read, babe. 448 00:20:59,760 --> 00:21:01,840 You're frustrating me because I can't read your mind. 449 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:03,320 When some... When she... 450 00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:06,160 When I start saying something that she's not getting, I'm frustrated. 451 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:08,120 I don't want to deal with this anymore. I'm gonna go. 452 00:21:08,240 --> 00:21:09,200 No, I'm not dealing with that. I'm just saying... 453 00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:13,320 You're now talking in circles, so I' gonna...I'm gonna pull you up there. 454 00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:16,760 I mean, this has been very enlightening, I think, 455 00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:18,240 for us to get a glimpse inside 456 00:21:18,360 --> 00:21:21,960 what's really going on in the relationship. 457 00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:25,120 So, an observation from... from us here 458 00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:29,760 is that you've both made missteps, I think, 459 00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:31,720 in terms of your communication 460 00:21:31,840 --> 00:21:33,160 and what you've brought to the couch here, 461 00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:37,200 because, Alissa, you were aware that he was withholding. 462 00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:39,480 You knew he was not being upfront with you, 463 00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:42,320 so you could have brought that up. 464 00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:45,280 And so, David, for you, you were choosing not to speak up. 465 00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:49,360 You haven't arrived at an outcome. 466 00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:50,480 No. 467 00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:53,520 But you've helped us see what's going on inside, 468 00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:55,320 so thank you for that, to this point 469 00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:58,240 So, now let's look forward 470 00:21:58,360 --> 00:22:01,040 because, as you know, this is the last commitment ceremony. 471 00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:04,520 This is almost the end of the experiment for you two. 472 00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:07,080 Where to from here? 473 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:09,120 (TENSE MUSIC PLAYS) 474 00:22:14,720 --> 00:22:17,120 Well, I'm sitting here because I want that help. 475 00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:22,800 I guess what we need to do is look beneath the arguments here, 476 00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:28,200 because there's a reason that you have been avoiding 477 00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:29,880 bringing these issues up. Yeah. 478 00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:31,040 Here's an opportunity to now say, 479 00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:33,720 "OK, we're going to come at this as equals, 480 00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:37,320 "not one putting the other down, not one avoiding and running away. 481 00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:38,920 "We are coming here together 482 00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:42,160 "to have this open, honest, mature conversation" 483 00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:44,480 about what you both want post-experiment 484 00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:48,960 because otherwise the last couple of months has been a waste of time. 485 00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:53,000 You've got that opportunity now. It's not too late. 486 00:22:53,120 --> 00:22:55,560 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 487 00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:57,200 Can you do that? 488 00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:58,160 Yeah. 489 00:22:58,280 --> 00:22:59,480 Alissa? 490 00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:01,400 Yeah. 491 00:23:09,360 --> 00:23:13,440 I do believe that the things we have gone through are significant 492 00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:15,200 and I believe that there are genuine feelings here. 493 00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:18,800 I do feel strong feelings towards Alissa. 494 00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:19,960 That's why I'm still here. 495 00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:22,000 OK. 496 00:23:22,120 --> 00:23:24,520 Alright. Well, on that note, we're going to go to a decision. 497 00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:26,680 Alissa, we'll start with you. 498 00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:31,720 I didn't come here for three months to waste it 499 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:35,920 and, like, I came here to find my person. 500 00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:37,400 I want to settle down. I want to have a family. 501 00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:38,560 I want the happy ending. 502 00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:42,800 And that is why I want to move forward as a team. 503 00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:46,560 And no holding back. 504 00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,200 And because there's so many feelings involved 505 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:53,240 and, like, I really care about this relationship so much, 506 00:23:53,360 --> 00:23:55,600 I have decided to stay. 507 00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:57,160 OK. Thank you. 508 00:23:57,280 --> 00:23:58,440 And to you, David. 509 00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:02,600 Yeah. Um... 510 00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:04,920 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 511 00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:11,960 I'll take your advice on board and, yeah, I wrote 'stay'. 512 00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:14,680 (APPLAUSE) 513 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:16,600 Pleased to see that. 514 00:24:18,120 --> 00:24:19,960 This could be make or break for you guys. 515 00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:23,880 You're about to make the decision of this experiment, 516 00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:27,880 the thing that is going to determine which way you go in your future. 517 00:24:29,120 --> 00:24:30,280 Good luck, guys. 518 00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:31,480 Thank you. 519 00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:34,160 Thank you. (APPLAUSE) 520 00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:49,640 (SOLEMN MUSIC PLAYS) 521 00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:57,600 Coming up... 522 00:24:57,720 --> 00:24:59,960 You do not have to tell me you love me 523 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:02,920 but I'm not going to walk down to final vows with someone 524 00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:04,600 that's a maybe. 525 00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:06,600 ..Bec hits her limit. 526 00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:08,040 I'm not doing it. 527 00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:09,200 And... 528 00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:10,640 I... 529 00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:15,960 ..will Scott speak up? 530 00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,760 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 531 00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:20,800 When I care about someone so much, 532 00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:23,520 I feel like I can't speak my voice when I have a concern 533 00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:24,720 and it's a weakness of mine. 534 00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,360 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 535 00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:34,080 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 536 00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:37,640 JOHN: Alright, let's have our next couple up. 537 00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:42,200 Rachel and Steven. 538 00:25:42,320 --> 00:25:44,720 Hey. (APPLAUSE) 539 00:25:46,360 --> 00:25:48,440 Hello. MEL: Hello. 540 00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:49,720 ALESSANDRA: Hello. 541 00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:51,560 How are you? Heya. 542 00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:53,640 I love this energy. 543 00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:55,600 JOHN: Can I just say, Stevo, you've got a bit of a swagger. 544 00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:57,400 MEL: Oh, he sure does. Yes. 545 00:25:57,520 --> 00:26:00,240 STEVEN: Oh, don't flatter me, John. (LAUGHTER) 546 00:26:00,360 --> 00:26:01,800 Especially coming from you. 547 00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:04,040 (LAUGHTER) 548 00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:06,360 Where do you two want to begin? 549 00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,080 Homestays, I guess. 550 00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:10,400 I mean, it seems like it's had a big impact on the two of you. 551 00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:12,360 Yeah. 552 00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:18,440 Homestays was a big success for me and I believe Rachel as well. 553 00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:22,800 Um... It's sort of changed the relationship in many ways. 554 00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:23,960 Ooh. In what way? 555 00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:27,120 For me, Rachel is fantastic. She... 556 00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:30,920 I showed her my passions and she went out on the boat 557 00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:32,760 and she enjoyed herself, a smile ear to ear, 558 00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:35,000 and we had lots of banter, laughing. 559 00:26:35,120 --> 00:26:37,120 It was a really super sweet time. 560 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:39,640 But it's not that she's into fishing, 561 00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:41,120 it's the independence. 562 00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:42,600 I can go... 563 00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:44,800 I feel like I can rely on Rachel. 564 00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:46,520 If something happens in the world where I'm, like, 565 00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:48,080 "Jeez, can you, you know, help me out with this?" 566 00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:50,480 Rachel's gonna go, "Got you back." EXPERTS: Yeah. 567 00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:51,920 And she's just going to get it done. 568 00:26:52,040 --> 00:26:55,320 So, as a result of that, how do you feel about her? 569 00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:57,400 Well... (GENTLE MUSIC PLAYS) 570 00:26:57,520 --> 00:27:02,560 ..I feel like I can see myself falling in love with Rachel. 571 00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:05,040 Whoo-hoo! (APPLAUDS) 572 00:27:05,160 --> 00:27:06,520 That's massive. 573 00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:09,040 Mm. 574 00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:10,280 Rachel, uh... 575 00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:14,200 These are tears of happiness. 576 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:17,080 Let's just take a moment, shall we? Just a little bit overwhelmed. 577 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:18,840 In a good way. 578 00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:23,440 I feel the same. 579 00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:26,320 You know, I can definitely see myself falling in love with you too. 580 00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:30,400 There's something going on for you right now, Rachel. What is it? 581 00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:31,640 Yeah. 582 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:33,080 This is a very significant moment for you. 583 00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:34,240 Yeah. 584 00:27:34,360 --> 00:27:36,920 Um... I think I shared with you, John, before I came in here, 585 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:41,400 the last time someone told me that they loved me, 586 00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:44,640 the very next day, they told me they don't remember saying it. 587 00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:47,640 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 588 00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:53,360 Um... That was after seven years of a...a toxic situationship. 589 00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:56,920 And so, um... It's... 590 00:27:57,040 --> 00:27:58,880 It's a hard thing. My barriers go up. 591 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:05,320 And so, having this journey with Steven 592 00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:08,960 and knowing, you know, how he feels about vulnerability 593 00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:11,760 and when he says something, he means it... 594 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:15,000 So for him to be sitting here and saying that to me, it... 595 00:28:15,120 --> 00:28:19,520 Yeah, bam, right in the feels in a really beautiful way 596 00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:23,520 'cause I'm, like, "Yeah, I believe him." 597 00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:29,840 And I don't think that I thought that I would believe a man again 598 00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:30,880 in that way. 599 00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:32,680 Thank you. 600 00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:34,040 You're welcome. 601 00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:37,600 And do you know what, he said that holding your hand, 602 00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:39,920 sitting next to you... Yeah. 603 00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:43,200 ..and showing you his family... Yeah. 604 00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:46,040 ..all the things that signal... Yep. 605 00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:48,280 ..he's not going anywhere. Yeah. 606 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:49,640 (WARM MUSIC PLAYS) 607 00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:51,960 It's different. It is very different. 608 00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:55,760 Is it scary? It's petrifying. 609 00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:00,440 What are you scared of the most? 610 00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:05,520 I'm scared that Steven will go back to his life in Sydney 611 00:29:05,640 --> 00:29:09,760 and it's just going to be easier for him to let me go 612 00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:14,040 because he is time-poor and he has his business. 613 00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:17,120 And so it might be a burden... 614 00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:20,400 to try and maintain our relationship with me. 615 00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:23,640 So he might just let me go. 616 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:30,840 So, yeah, that's... that's my fear. 617 00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:36,720 Well, how does that land for you, Steven, when you hear her say that? 618 00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:39,880 Um... Yeah, it makes me feel helpless at times 619 00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:42,040 and I just don't know what to say, because I... 620 00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:45,000 When I see Rachel in these states, 621 00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:47,040 the first thing I want to do is try and comfort her 622 00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:51,200 and try to fix the situation or reassure her, at least... 623 00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:53,400 at least take the edge off a bit. 624 00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:57,360 So if you don't have to fix it and you just sit with it and validate it 625 00:29:57,480 --> 00:29:58,440 can you do that? 626 00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:01,680 I can do that. I can't say I'm happy with that. 627 00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:03,880 But, I mean, it's... it is what it is. 628 00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:05,080 Makes you feel a bit uncomfortable? 629 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:06,480 It does. Yeah. Good. 630 00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:07,920 It does. Good. 631 00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:09,880 It does. Um... And the only thing I can say to her is... 632 00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,560 is that the only thing that I feel like that's going to fix this 633 00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:14,400 is actually go out there in the real world 634 00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:16,680 and put it into practice and... Yeah. 635 00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:18,000 ..prove her wrong, pretty much. 636 00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:21,040 Well, haven't you changed? Mm. 637 00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:24,800 You know, or the both of you sitting in front of us today. 638 00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:26,760 This was all done at homestays. 639 00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:29,040 It was amazing what homestays did for us. 640 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:31,560 We love it. We love it. Mm. 641 00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:33,280 Alright, let's go to the decision. 642 00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:35,800 Start with you first, Stevo. 643 00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:39,640 There was a big question mark with me before homestays. 644 00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:41,440 I'm like, "This could make or break us." 645 00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:46,440 But it's just only brought me closer to Rachel. 646 00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:48,920 So I'm gonna, uh...yeah, stay. Beautiful. 647 00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:50,040 MEL: Brilliant. 648 00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:52,280 (BOTH LAUGH) And what about you, Rachel? 649 00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:53,440 What have you got? Stay or leave? 650 00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:58,400 I know this is going to shock everyone, but I wrote 'stay' 651 00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:00,760 and that's us on a boat fishing. 652 00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:02,720 (APPLAUSE AND CHEERING) 653 00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:04,480 MEL: Beautiful. 654 00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:08,600 We have loved watching you through this experiment. 655 00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:11,360 You've had some difficult moments along the way, 656 00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:14,400 but you've grown, you know. 657 00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:16,000 And the way in which you're together now, 658 00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:18,600 really, it's on display. 659 00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:20,080 Everyone sees it. 660 00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:23,040 You're a unified couple. It's fantastic. 661 00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:26,400 What I would say to you in this final week 662 00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:28,280 is don't get inside your head too much. 663 00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:34,400 You need to be enjoying this... this final week 664 00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:37,280 rather than thinking too far ahead 665 00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:40,440 because that's something that I think in the past you've... 666 00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:43,400 you've been a bit guilty of doing. 667 00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:44,800 And on that, you can go back to your group. 668 00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,280 Thank you. Thank you very much. Thank you. 669 00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:48,960 Well done, guys. Cheers. 670 00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:49,880 Good stuff. 671 00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:51,560 (APPLAUSE) 672 00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:56,040 Oh... 673 00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:57,840 (GENTLE MUSIC PLAYS) 674 00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:03,840 (LAUGHS) STELLA: Yeah. 675 00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:19,200 Let's get our next couple up on the couch. 676 00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:23,440 Bec and Danny. Ooh! 677 00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:25,440 (TENSE MUSIC PLAYS) (APPLAUSE) 678 00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,320 DANNY: Hey, guys. MEL: Hello. 679 00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:29,120 BEC: How are you? ALESSANDRA: Good. How are you? 680 00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:30,840 MEL: We're very well. JOHN: Good, good, good. 681 00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:35,160 Homestays. Let's start with you, Bec What were they like? 682 00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:36,520 They were great. 683 00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:41,680 I was in my own state. I was in my own home with my dog. 684 00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:46,960 We saw my family at my aunty's beach house and that was great. 685 00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:50,120 Um... Dad and Daniel get along really well, which is great. 686 00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:53,080 So, good start. Great start. 687 00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:57,840 What else happened at the homestay? 688 00:32:57,960 --> 00:32:59,480 (REFLECTIVE MUSIC PLAYS) 689 00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:02,560 We met Bec's friends. That went pretty good, didn't it? 690 00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:04,800 Like, just, like, the tough questions. 691 00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:07,520 And then that night, we went back to...to Bec's 692 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:11,800 and we were sitting around, like, having a...having a fire. 693 00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:17,960 And then I cracked a joke, like, about her cousin fancying me. 694 00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:19,960 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 695 00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:21,760 And it landed poorly. 696 00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:24,440 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 697 00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:27,320 What did he say with the joke? Can you just tell us? 698 00:33:27,440 --> 00:33:30,800 We were having a bit of an emotional moment with one another, 699 00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:34,600 talking about our feelings and how it's been on homestays 700 00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:35,880 and Daniel said, 701 00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:39,360 "If all else fails, at least Danielle fancies me" type thing. 702 00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:41,400 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 703 00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:44,320 And I lost it. 704 00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:46,560 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 705 00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:47,960 And why? 706 00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:53,000 Because it makes me feel like when we're having this conversation 707 00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:55,120 that means so much to me, 708 00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:58,040 that it diminishes it and it makes it a joke. 709 00:33:58,160 --> 00:33:59,640 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 710 00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:01,960 I get it, I shouldn't have said it. 711 00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:04,600 But I feel like our fight styles don't really match too well. 712 00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:10,120 What scared me was we couldn't rectify it too quickly 713 00:34:10,240 --> 00:34:13,640 and where I'm sort of holding back a little bit 714 00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:17,440 is I don't... I wouldn't want to move 715 00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:19,280 and then we have an argument like that 716 00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:21,280 and I feel really isolated and alone. 717 00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:22,680 I don't want to do that. 718 00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:24,920 So, arguing is something that scares you... 719 00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:26,480 Of course. Yeah. ..when it comes to Bec? 720 00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:28,040 Why? 721 00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:30,240 I think for both of us it just doesn't work. 722 00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:32,040 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 723 00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:36,000 Wow. OK. What am I saying wrong? 724 00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:40,320 Just to use the words "for both of us, it doesn't work..." 725 00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:44,160 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 726 00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:45,840 I'm not saying we don't work. 727 00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:47,560 I'm saying our fight style doesn't work. 728 00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:50,320 Oh, yeah, that... No, OK. 729 00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:52,320 So this is what happens sometimes. 730 00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:53,840 I try and say something 731 00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:56,120 and Bec takes it in completely the wrong way. 732 00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:00,800 Bec, what's going on inside of you right now? 733 00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:06,160 Um... I suppose I'm fearful 'cause I've let every wall down. 734 00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:08,080 So, what happens to you when he says that? 735 00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:13,120 Just...kills my soul a little bit, to be honest with you. 736 00:35:13,240 --> 00:35:16,240 (SOLEMN MUSIC PLAYS) 737 00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:20,960 'Cause I'm like, "Well, why haven't you said this to me?" 738 00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:24,160 Because... Because I've been fearful to say it. 739 00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:25,680 Because I don't want to upset you. 740 00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:28,280 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 741 00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:31,120 No, no, no, do not blame me. I'm not blaming you. 742 00:35:31,240 --> 00:35:34,840 Don't say you're fearful to tell me 'cause you're going to upset me. 743 00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:37,440 I'm here in love with you. 744 00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:40,240 We're at the end of this experiment. 745 00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:42,360 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 746 00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:45,440 You're making it seem like I've been holding on to this for six months. 747 00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:48,240 Honestly, I noticed it in Adelaide when I felt isolated. 748 00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:49,800 Up until then, I hadn't noticed it. 749 00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:51,680 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 750 00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:58,440 Bec, I look at your face. You seem very concerned. 751 00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:05,400 I think he's got more reservations than he lets on. 752 00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:07,760 Oh, really? I do. Yeah. 753 00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:09,840 I do. I do. I do. What do you mean? 754 00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:13,320 (LAUGHS) 755 00:36:13,440 --> 00:36:15,920 (TENSE MUSIC PLAYS) 756 00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:18,280 Danny... Danny, look at me. 757 00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:21,360 There really is no time for you to make light of the situation 758 00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:25,880 because when you add things up, Danny, 759 00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:27,560 it's not making her feel secure. 760 00:36:27,680 --> 00:36:29,480 You know, you haven't said your feelings back to her. 761 00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:34,640 You've gone to the family and they've validated you 762 00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:36,280 and then you're not bringing up issues 763 00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:37,800 because you're afraid of the fight style. 764 00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:43,920 It starts to add up and it makes her feel... What, Bec? 765 00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:46,040 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 766 00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:50,800 Like he's just not that into me. (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 767 00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:56,720 So that's a problem 768 00:36:56,840 --> 00:36:59,000 because this far into the experiment 769 00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:02,200 you don't want your partner to be thinking, 770 00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:04,600 "Oh, he's just not that into me." 771 00:37:07,360 --> 00:37:09,520 Yeah, but I am. 772 00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:13,160 I've told you that I am. You know I am. 773 00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:16,240 So why is she not believing it? 774 00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:19,800 I... I don't know. I can't speak for Bec. 775 00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:21,800 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 776 00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:28,120 I'm asking for you to sit there and say to me, 777 00:37:28,240 --> 00:37:30,120 "Bec, this is how I feel about you." 778 00:37:30,240 --> 00:37:31,080 Just once. 779 00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:33,600 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 780 00:37:33,720 --> 00:37:35,560 You know how I feel about you. 781 00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:37,040 You know I care about you so much. 782 00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:39,520 I do know you care about me. 783 00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:41,360 But where is the passion? 784 00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:44,040 I see tiny glimpses of it. 785 00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:48,360 But I feel like you are holding back. 786 00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:51,640 You said to me once at the beginning of this experiment 787 00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:54,960 and I'll never forget it and it's probably ruined me... 788 00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:59,920 Daniel was, like, "Well, when you are obsessed with each other, 789 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:02,360 "you're all over each other" and I don't have that. 790 00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:05,760 I just don't get it from him at all. 791 00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:07,640 He doesn't want to hold my hand walking down the street. 792 00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:09,080 That's not your style. No worries. 793 00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:11,960 Whenever we have a kiss, I'm the one going to kiss you. 794 00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:14,120 You never, ever, ever go to kiss me. 795 00:38:14,240 --> 00:38:16,440 You don't compliment me. Hardly ever. 796 00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:18,400 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 797 00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:21,160 So, for me, it's, like, "Well, I'm this fool 798 00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:23,080 "that's allowed my heart to get to this point" 799 00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:26,680 and then he's not there and he's not going to feel that way. 800 00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:31,440 I don't think that's a fair assumption. 801 00:38:31,560 --> 00:38:33,200 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 802 00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:40,360 The thing that's important here, Danny, 803 00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:44,120 is that she's just told you in a very clear-cut way 804 00:38:44,240 --> 00:38:48,120 why she doesn't feel like you're interested. 805 00:38:48,240 --> 00:38:49,800 (SOLEMN MUSIC PLAYS) 806 00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:54,480 Your reaction is, "Well, that's not fair." 807 00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:55,960 No, but, like... 808 00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:58,000 Yes, that's exactly what we just heard. 809 00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:00,920 (SOLEMN MUSIC PLAYS) 810 00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:03,280 Even, like, all of the husbands walked past us 811 00:39:03,400 --> 00:39:04,960 sitting at the commitment ceremony 812 00:39:05,080 --> 00:39:06,720 and they all acknowledged their wives. 813 00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:08,480 And you never do. You ignore me. 814 00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:11,600 (SOLEMN MUSIC PLAYS) 815 00:39:11,720 --> 00:39:14,040 And I don't know how I've gotten to this point 816 00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:16,080 of these feelings with that. 817 00:39:18,720 --> 00:39:21,160 (CRIES) I'm so worried! 818 00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:23,000 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 819 00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:26,240 I'm actually so worried! 820 00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:34,040 I just don't feel you have...like, you have any desire and I just... 821 00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:35,960 (CRIES) Yeah, I'm just nervous. 822 00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:41,720 The reality is, is that how can you move to Adelaide 823 00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:45,040 and how can we live this life together 824 00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:47,320 if this is how it's going to be? 825 00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:49,840 I can't be the one going to kiss you... 826 00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:53,360 just so that there's a level of affection. 827 00:39:53,480 --> 00:39:55,320 I can't. 828 00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:57,280 I'm not doing it. 829 00:39:57,400 --> 00:39:59,720 I've done it. I did it. I nearly married it. 830 00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:01,200 I'm not doing it. 831 00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:05,640 I'm not. I'm not doing it. 832 00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:06,960 You're either into me... 833 00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:10,360 You have had enough time to know if I am the type of person 834 00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:11,640 you would want to be with. 835 00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:13,600 You do not have to tell me you love me, 836 00:40:13,720 --> 00:40:17,440 but I'm not going to walk down to final vows with someone 837 00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:19,200 that's a maybe about me. 838 00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:20,440 I'm not doing it. 839 00:40:20,560 --> 00:40:23,560 I'd rather be heartbroken now than heartbroken in six months time. 840 00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:26,480 (EXHALES) 841 00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:37,160 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 842 00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:40,720 You have had enough time to know if I am the type of person 843 00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:42,200 you would want to be with. 844 00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:43,720 You do not have to tell me you love me, 845 00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:47,960 but I'm not going to walk down to final vows with someone 846 00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:49,760 that's a maybe about me. 847 00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:51,000 I'm not doing it. 848 00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:55,520 I'd rather be heartbroken now than heartbroken in six months time. 849 00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:57,720 (EXHALES) 850 00:40:57,840 --> 00:40:59,800 (REFLECTIVE MUSIC PLAYS) 851 00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:14,560 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 852 00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:17,880 How does that land for you, Danny? 853 00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:25,680 Well, obviously it hurts to... it hurts to see Bec like that. 854 00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:32,000 What is she saying to you that you've done to get her to this point 855 00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:36,040 Well, just not...not be passionate 856 00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:38,320 and not...not be the man she needs me to be. 857 00:41:41,720 --> 00:41:44,240 I've had my guard up, essentially. That's... That's what... 858 00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:45,760 Yeah. 859 00:41:49,720 --> 00:41:52,280 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 860 00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:55,520 When she lays this out on the table, 861 00:41:55,640 --> 00:42:00,880 no compliments, very few, lack of intimacy, 862 00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:03,200 not making her a priority, 863 00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:05,240 not saying how you feel about her... 864 00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:09,760 what do you think that does to her? 865 00:42:09,880 --> 00:42:11,920 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 866 00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:14,120 Yeah, it would destroy her. 867 00:42:14,240 --> 00:42:16,440 What do you think it does to the relationship? 868 00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:19,640 Destroys the relationship as well. 869 00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:21,240 (TENSE MUSIC PLAYS) 870 00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:23,120 Why? 871 00:42:23,240 --> 00:42:24,480 Because you can't have... 872 00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:27,000 You can't build a relationship on, like, sound foundations, 873 00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:28,840 do you know what I mean? 874 00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:33,120 So, help us understand why you're not doing these things 875 00:42:33,240 --> 00:42:35,720 to bring her close. 876 00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:38,600 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 877 00:42:38,720 --> 00:42:42,480 Just... Obviously we've talked about the fight style. 878 00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:44,720 That's a bit where I've been holding back. 879 00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:47,080 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 880 00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:49,880 But I guess after my last relationship, 881 00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:51,960 I haven't felt this strongly towards a woman 882 00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:54,040 or been this close with a woman in years. 883 00:42:56,440 --> 00:42:58,280 But, of course, I still have a bit of a guard up 884 00:42:58,400 --> 00:43:03,080 because last time, when it didn't work out, it destroyed my life. 885 00:43:05,440 --> 00:43:07,120 How nice would it be to have heard that? 886 00:43:07,240 --> 00:43:08,440 You just did. 887 00:43:08,560 --> 00:43:11,640 I know, but why do I have to go to this length to hear that? 888 00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:14,080 'Cause I'm no good at this shit. (GENTLE MUSIC PLAYS) 889 00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:17,720 Well, I've been begging you for this level of openness 890 00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:19,760 for nearly three months 891 00:43:19,880 --> 00:43:24,000 and so, hearing that makes me feel like 892 00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:26,880 there's hope, you know. 893 00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:30,240 (REFLECTIVE MUSIC PLAYS) 894 00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:33,200 Why does that make you feel hopeful? 895 00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:35,760 Because if he hasn't felt like this in years, 896 00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:42,280 then that means that it's real 897 00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:47,800 and you might be into me but you need to open yourself to me. 898 00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:50,760 Yeah, I guess, like, this has been a problem in the past, 899 00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:53,360 that I am just a shit boyfriend, to be honest. 900 00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:55,200 Oh, I don't... I am. 901 00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:57,560 I ain't that good, to be honest. 902 00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:00,120 But that is a very easy way of getting out of it. 903 00:44:00,240 --> 00:44:03,960 "Don't hold me accountable. I'm just a shit boyfriend." 904 00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:05,920 No, I'm not saying it like that. But you are. 905 00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:08,680 And that's what she's hearing. 906 00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:11,040 (TENSE MUSIC PLAYS) 907 00:44:11,160 --> 00:44:13,800 What she wants right now from you, Danny, 908 00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:16,160 is for you to step into this and go, 909 00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:18,280 "You know what, yeah, I've dropped the ball 910 00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:21,680 "and I've sent you the wrong signals 911 00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:24,360 "and I'm accountable and I'm going to do different." 912 00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:26,440 But I'm not getting that from you. 913 00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:28,320 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 914 00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:30,480 No, Bec, I want to say I am 915 00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:33,720 and I'm sorry if, like... for making you feel like that. 916 00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:35,000 Genuinely, from the bottom of my heart. 917 00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:36,800 You know I'd never want to upset you. 918 00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:38,120 You mean the world to me. 919 00:44:38,240 --> 00:44:41,000 (GENTLE MUSIC PLAYS) 920 00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:43,640 And I'm sorry if I've dropped the ball. 921 00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:45,120 It was never my intention. 922 00:44:45,240 --> 00:44:48,600 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 923 00:44:48,720 --> 00:44:51,440 I like hearing it, but I need to see it. 924 00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:53,360 Yeah, and I'll...I'll try... 925 00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:55,480 I can't keep on hearing it and then nothing changes. 926 00:44:55,600 --> 00:44:57,040 Well, let me show you, then. 927 00:44:57,160 --> 00:44:59,440 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 928 00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:01,120 OK. 929 00:45:03,880 --> 00:45:05,560 Let me show you. 930 00:45:05,680 --> 00:45:08,960 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 931 00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:11,560 Now, with that, we're going to go to the decision. 932 00:45:13,080 --> 00:45:15,400 Bec, what have you got for us? Stay or leave? 933 00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:19,280 Well, you... You have my heart 934 00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:22,920 and, like, you are the most special person. 935 00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:25,520 I've never met anyone like you, right? 936 00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:28,080 And I feel really, really lucky that we were matched 937 00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:30,080 and we get to go on this journey together. 938 00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:31,840 Um... 939 00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:38,200 But I need you to give me 940 00:45:38,320 --> 00:45:40,880 half of what I'm giving you, at least. 941 00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:44,000 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 942 00:45:48,720 --> 00:45:53,320 We have overcome so many hurdles together 943 00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:55,360 and we've made it this far, so... 944 00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:57,520 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 945 00:45:57,640 --> 00:46:00,480 ..I said stay. Mm. 946 00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:02,360 And then I said "Proud of us." 947 00:46:02,480 --> 00:46:04,560 Love it. Love it. 948 00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:06,280 And Danny? 949 00:46:06,400 --> 00:46:08,960 Yeah, obviously I want to apologise again. 950 00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:10,440 I'm so sorry. 951 00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:12,280 You know, you mean the world to me. 952 00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:15,440 And this week, I'll try and prove that to you. 953 00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:19,400 I'm here for love and I think I can find that with you. 954 00:46:19,520 --> 00:46:21,800 So that's why I wrote 'stay'. Good. 955 00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:25,840 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 956 00:46:32,240 --> 00:46:36,040 Danny, from where we're sitting, this week is on you. 957 00:46:36,160 --> 00:46:38,520 You have to do the heavy lifting. 958 00:46:38,640 --> 00:46:44,080 You've got a partner here with you who's put her heart out there 959 00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:46,440 and said, "I'm in love. I want this." 960 00:46:46,560 --> 00:46:48,200 You need to step up. 961 00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:51,000 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 962 00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:56,080 And if you are feeling these strong emotions for her, 963 00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:57,800 then you've got to start showing it. 964 00:46:57,920 --> 00:46:58,880 Yeah. 965 00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:01,960 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 966 00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:04,760 With that, you can go back to the group. 967 00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:06,000 Thanks, guys. MEL: Well done, guys. 968 00:47:06,120 --> 00:47:08,000 (APPLAUSE) 969 00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:11,600 Thanks. Good work, you two. 970 00:47:11,720 --> 00:47:13,280 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 971 00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:19,480 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 972 00:47:39,080 --> 00:47:40,200 OK? 973 00:47:42,200 --> 00:47:43,920 (CLEARS THROAT) 974 00:47:44,040 --> 00:47:45,080 NARRATOR: Still to come... 975 00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:47,280 I haven't been able to address a concern 976 00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:50,000 without Gia and I having an argument or her spiralling. 977 00:47:50,120 --> 00:47:52,960 ALESSANDRA: What kind of things could she say? 978 00:47:53,080 --> 00:47:56,520 ..in a moment that demands honesty.. 979 00:47:56,640 --> 00:48:00,600 Things that can make someone feel pretty defeated and let down. 980 00:48:00,720 --> 00:48:02,560 Such as? Um... 981 00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:04,800 ..Scott hesitates. (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 982 00:48:06,240 --> 00:48:08,400 If you can't speak honestly in front of Gia, 983 00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:10,720 then I'm really concerned about the possibility 984 00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:14,920 of this relationship surviving outside the experiment. 985 00:48:15,040 --> 00:48:17,280 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 986 00:48:22,040 --> 00:48:24,600 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 987 00:48:24,720 --> 00:48:26,040 Next on the couch... 988 00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:30,000 Chris and Sam. 989 00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:33,640 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) (APPLAUSE) 990 00:48:33,760 --> 00:48:35,920 MEL: Hello. SAM: Hello. 991 00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:38,200 Hi. 992 00:48:38,320 --> 00:48:41,440 (SOLEMN MUSIC PLAYS) 993 00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:43,360 Body language says a lot. 994 00:48:43,480 --> 00:48:45,760 Yeah, it's been tough. 995 00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:47,320 Yeah. 996 00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:49,800 (TENSE MUSIC PLAYS) 997 00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:53,680 Um... What happened last time we sat here, 998 00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:59,320 I wrote 'leave' in the moment and then I kind of regretted it. 999 00:48:59,440 --> 00:49:02,120 Um... We decided to go to homestays and I thought, 1000 00:49:02,240 --> 00:49:03,720 "OK, I'm really going to try and turn this around." 1001 00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:06,600 And I bought him some flowers. I got him a card and made him... 1002 00:49:06,720 --> 00:49:09,320 Went to the shop and got groceries and made dinner. 1003 00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:11,200 And then we had a day with my cattle. 1004 00:49:11,320 --> 00:49:14,120 You know, we were outside and I thought that was really fun. 1005 00:49:14,240 --> 00:49:17,800 And then we had a bonfire. 1006 00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:23,840 Sam pulled out a journal with some questions in it. 1007 00:49:23,960 --> 00:49:27,440 Hand on heart, I was answering them the best that I could. 1008 00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:30,680 And then Sam decided to leave the farm. 1009 00:49:30,800 --> 00:49:34,760 And I thought, "Look, I really tried to turn this around." 1010 00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:37,920 I really took on all of your guys' feedback. 1011 00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:40,960 And, yeah, I just feel like I've shut down now. 1012 00:49:42,520 --> 00:49:43,640 SAM: Yeah. 1013 00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:45,520 I just felt like he was saving face... 1014 00:49:47,080 --> 00:49:50,160 especially, like, the flowers and dinner thing. 1015 00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:52,640 It felt very, like, "I need to do these things 1016 00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:54,520 "to show that I put in effort." 1017 00:49:54,640 --> 00:49:55,760 For me, it was genuine. 1018 00:49:55,880 --> 00:49:57,120 I was trying to be as genuine as I could 1019 00:49:57,240 --> 00:49:59,080 and I thought that was... Yeah. 1020 00:49:59,200 --> 00:50:01,040 ..a way to try and make you feel welcome at the farm. 1021 00:50:01,160 --> 00:50:03,800 I feel like your effort was, like, to push forward 1022 00:50:03,920 --> 00:50:05,440 and there was effort for you to grow, 1023 00:50:05,560 --> 00:50:07,600 but it was never, like, "I need to grow for us 1024 00:50:07,720 --> 00:50:10,040 "and I want to grow to be a better partner for you." 1025 00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:12,040 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1026 00:50:16,520 --> 00:50:19,920 Where did the relationship go wrong for you both? 1027 00:50:20,040 --> 00:50:21,800 (SOLEMN MUSIC PLAYS) 1028 00:50:23,640 --> 00:50:27,400 Um... I feel like Chris never really fully forgave me 1029 00:50:27,520 --> 00:50:29,880 for calling him out on, like, behaviours. 1030 00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:35,000 And from then on, especially after you guys gave him feedback, 1031 00:50:35,120 --> 00:50:37,480 it was, like...it was, like, a no-return-point from then. 1032 00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:43,040 Where did it go wrong for you? 1033 00:50:43,160 --> 00:50:46,520 Um... I feel like like after the retreat, that chemistry, 1034 00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:48,920 it was lacking for me. 1035 00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:51,240 We were intimate a second time 1036 00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:52,840 and I just felt like that wasn't there for me. 1037 00:50:54,960 --> 00:50:56,520 Was it the quality of the interaction? 1038 00:50:56,640 --> 00:50:59,200 Was it... Was it him as a person? 1039 00:50:59,320 --> 00:51:02,480 What was it that felt off for you? 1040 00:51:04,000 --> 00:51:06,280 If I'm being honest, it was just the quality of the interaction. 1041 00:51:06,400 --> 00:51:08,520 I just... I don't know, it just wasn't there for me. 1042 00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:11,240 (SOLEMN MUSIC PLAYS) 1043 00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:17,440 Is that something that you spoke to Sam about? 1044 00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:20,320 No. I didn't want to hurt his feelings. 1045 00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:26,800 How are you feeling about that, Sam, to hear this? 1046 00:51:26,920 --> 00:51:31,280 Oh, yeah. Like, I guess it's a surprise. Um... 1047 00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:35,720 And, like, I guess what really sucks is that I was out on the farm 1048 00:51:35,840 --> 00:51:38,640 and I was, like, herding cows, and I was, like, "This is so good." 1049 00:51:38,760 --> 00:51:40,480 And the kids thing never bothered me. 1050 00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:42,160 Like, it's always something that I've wanted in my life. 1051 00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:45,240 And I was just, like, it was so annoying 1052 00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:47,320 that everything else would have worked. 1053 00:51:47,440 --> 00:51:49,840 (SOLEMN MUSIC PLAYS) 1054 00:51:51,640 --> 00:51:53,880 MEL: This is really disappointing for us 1055 00:51:54,000 --> 00:51:57,480 because we had so much hope for the two of you. 1056 00:51:58,880 --> 00:52:02,200 It's just so unfortunate that along the way, 1057 00:52:02,320 --> 00:52:04,880 with all of the pressure that the experiment brings, 1058 00:52:05,000 --> 00:52:06,800 that the wheels have fallen off. 1059 00:52:09,600 --> 00:52:12,200 It is disappointing. I came here to find love. 1060 00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:14,240 And, you know, I know that I'm a slow burn 1061 00:52:14,360 --> 00:52:16,160 and, you know, I know that I get anxious 1062 00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:17,560 once I do get feelings for someone 1063 00:52:17,680 --> 00:52:19,920 because it takes me so long to build feelings for someone. 1064 00:52:20,040 --> 00:52:23,320 Um... And, yeah, it's just really disappointing 1065 00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:24,960 that it all ended up like this, 1066 00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:28,880 but, you know... high hopes for the future. 1067 00:52:30,400 --> 00:52:31,560 Yeah. 1068 00:52:31,680 --> 00:52:34,160 What about you, Chris? Yeah. 1069 00:52:34,280 --> 00:52:36,120 And I said to Sam that I want to be really good friends with him. 1070 00:52:36,240 --> 00:52:39,120 We've been on this journey for eight weeks. 1071 00:52:39,240 --> 00:52:43,000 So, yeah, I hope that we can stay in each other's lives outside of here. 1072 00:52:43,120 --> 00:52:44,240 Yeah. 1073 00:52:45,440 --> 00:52:48,760 Alright. Well, we're going to go to a decision. 1074 00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:50,560 Chris, we'll start with you. 1075 00:52:52,040 --> 00:52:54,520 I've obviously learned a lot about myself and I hope you have too. 1076 00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:58,400 And, you know, I'm sorry that it didn't work out for us. 1077 00:52:58,520 --> 00:53:04,160 My time has unfortunately run out, so, yeah, I have to leave. 1078 00:53:04,280 --> 00:53:05,960 (SOLEMN MUSIC PLAYS) OK. Thank you. 1079 00:53:06,080 --> 00:53:08,240 And to you, Sam. 1080 00:53:08,360 --> 00:53:10,280 It's been a journey. I've learned a lot. 1081 00:53:10,400 --> 00:53:12,200 90% of our time together was awesome. 1082 00:53:12,320 --> 00:53:18,680 Yeah, but, you know, it's come to the time to pack it up and leave. 1083 00:53:18,800 --> 00:53:20,360 (SOLEMN MUSIC PLAYS) 1084 00:53:22,800 --> 00:53:24,480 I'm sorry you've both landed here 1085 00:53:24,600 --> 00:53:28,680 but hopefully you have learned some lessons along the way 1086 00:53:28,800 --> 00:53:32,520 that you can take into your next relationships... 1087 00:53:32,640 --> 00:53:34,680 And parenthood. Yeah. 1088 00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:36,280 You know, this is all about that self-development 1089 00:53:36,400 --> 00:53:38,880 as well as couple development. 1090 00:53:40,560 --> 00:53:42,120 Thank you both so much. ALESSANDRA: Thank you both. 1091 00:53:42,240 --> 00:53:43,760 JOHN: Well done, you two. 1092 00:53:43,880 --> 00:53:46,640 (APPLAUSE) 1093 00:53:46,760 --> 00:53:48,880 (BRIGHT MUSIC PLAYS) 1094 00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:55,680 BEC: Well done, guys. We're gonna miss you. 1095 00:53:57,840 --> 00:53:59,200 Our next couple up on the couch... 1096 00:54:00,880 --> 00:54:01,920 Stella and Filip. 1097 00:54:02,040 --> 00:54:05,400 (APPLAUSE) (BRIGHT MUSIC PLAYS) 1098 00:54:05,520 --> 00:54:08,040 STELLA: Hello. MEL: Hello there. 1099 00:54:09,840 --> 00:54:11,600 FILIP: How you doing? 1100 00:54:11,720 --> 00:54:13,720 Well, we're more interested in how you're doing. 1101 00:54:13,840 --> 00:54:15,160 Yeah. 1102 00:54:15,280 --> 00:54:17,160 Coming into homestays was very, very important for me. 1103 00:54:17,280 --> 00:54:19,360 I was always open to moving, 1104 00:54:19,480 --> 00:54:22,680 so it was a really big deal to go into Stella's space. 1105 00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:25,400 And I was just really keen to see what it would look like. 1106 00:54:27,440 --> 00:54:29,960 I just tried to envisage everything, like how I'd live there, 1107 00:54:30,080 --> 00:54:31,960 the vibe, the energy and all that kind of stuff. 1108 00:54:33,640 --> 00:54:37,920 After the experiment, Stella's going to come back for my mum's birthday, 1109 00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:39,840 celebrate that. 1110 00:54:39,960 --> 00:54:42,320 We're going to spend a few days in Melbourne 1111 00:54:42,440 --> 00:54:46,240 and then I'll pick my car up and drive up to Cronulla. 1112 00:54:47,680 --> 00:54:49,200 He's moving in. Yeah. 1113 00:54:49,320 --> 00:54:51,840 (LAUGHS) Yeah. Straight in. 1114 00:54:51,960 --> 00:54:52,960 Yeah. Oh! 1115 00:54:53,080 --> 00:54:55,400 JOHN: Moving in? MEL: That's a plan. 1116 00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:59,240 Yeah. So it is a plan. We got there. (WARM MUSIC PLAYS) 1117 00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:00,800 Here's the thing. 1118 00:55:00,920 --> 00:55:02,960 When I first met you, you loved control. 1119 00:55:03,080 --> 00:55:04,240 Yeah. 1120 00:55:04,360 --> 00:55:08,480 You mapped out, you know, what you wanted to do during the day, 1121 00:55:08,600 --> 00:55:10,720 your fitness, your health, your sleep. 1122 00:55:10,840 --> 00:55:12,520 Everything on point. 1123 00:55:12,640 --> 00:55:15,880 And you, without a plan, 1124 00:55:16,000 --> 00:55:18,960 there was a part of you that wasn't committing. 1125 00:55:19,080 --> 00:55:23,560 And now you've come up with a plan, you've got certainty 1126 00:55:23,680 --> 00:55:25,600 and now you're on the same track. 1127 00:55:25,720 --> 00:55:27,960 Because I want this relationship to work. 1128 00:55:28,080 --> 00:55:31,960 (LAUGHS) Yeah. Yeah. 1129 00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:36,000 And I feel like every woman can agree with that - 1130 00:55:36,120 --> 00:55:39,320 when you don't understand your man's intentions, 1131 00:55:39,440 --> 00:55:41,960 that's when you get frazzled, that's when you overthink. 1132 00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:43,720 That's when you're in your head. 1133 00:55:43,840 --> 00:55:48,000 When you know that the man is, like, "OK, let's do this," 1134 00:55:48,120 --> 00:55:50,680 I think you really settle into that heart. 1135 00:55:50,800 --> 00:55:52,960 You really do. 1136 00:55:53,080 --> 00:55:56,200 Filip, I want you to turn to Stella and tell her how you feel. 1137 00:55:56,320 --> 00:55:58,000 You're gonna make me cry! 1138 00:55:58,120 --> 00:55:59,600 (GENTLE MUSIC PLAYS) 1139 00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:06,320 (CLEARS THROAT) You know. 1140 00:56:06,440 --> 00:56:09,120 "You know." (LAUGHTER) 1141 00:56:09,240 --> 00:56:10,880 "You know." 1142 00:56:11,000 --> 00:56:13,200 MEL: We can't cope. No. 1143 00:56:13,320 --> 00:56:16,760 (LAUGHTER) "You know." 1144 00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:18,960 Oh, stop it! (LAUGHS) 1145 00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:20,760 Hey. 1146 00:56:22,400 --> 00:56:25,800 Uh, you...you 100% know that I am... 1147 00:56:25,920 --> 00:56:26,880 I am in love with you... 1148 00:56:27,000 --> 00:56:28,480 I know, babe. 1149 00:56:28,600 --> 00:56:29,920 ..and that you shouldn't doubt anything. 1150 00:56:30,040 --> 00:56:30,760 Mm-hm. 1151 00:56:30,880 --> 00:56:32,600 There's a lot of unknown and stuff like that... 1152 00:56:32,720 --> 00:56:34,040 It's OK. We got this. 1153 00:56:34,160 --> 00:56:35,680 ..but, you know, we're a team, so... Yeah. 1154 00:56:35,800 --> 00:56:36,960 So... I love you too. 1155 00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:38,320 OK. 1156 00:56:38,440 --> 00:56:40,400 (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE) 1157 00:56:42,600 --> 00:56:47,240 JOHN: So, Stella, how does that feel when he says that, 1158 00:56:47,360 --> 00:56:51,520 knowing that he's got a plan and he's moving in? 1159 00:56:51,640 --> 00:56:54,840 Again, like, I really could go from the two weeks conversation. 1160 00:56:54,960 --> 00:56:56,560 Like, this man makes me feel safe. 1161 00:56:56,680 --> 00:57:00,880 I don't think I ever experienced love before meeting him 1162 00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:03,200 because... 1163 00:57:03,320 --> 00:57:07,080 He shows up for me. Yeah. Big-time. 1164 00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:09,200 Yeah. 1165 00:57:09,320 --> 00:57:12,200 Can I just ask you, Stella, what's getting you upset right now? 1166 00:57:12,320 --> 00:57:13,800 Why is this so important? 1167 00:57:13,920 --> 00:57:17,120 Yeah, I feel quite lucky in the sense that... 1168 00:57:18,880 --> 00:57:23,120 if this works out, it means that everything that was in the past, 1169 00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:25,480 all those learning curves, all those relationships, 1170 00:57:25,600 --> 00:57:29,080 all...all was worth for this moment, you know, 1171 00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:33,040 because I do...I think at this stage of my life 1172 00:57:33,160 --> 00:57:36,760 where I do truly want this to be my forever person 1173 00:57:36,880 --> 00:57:39,280 and I do see...I do see that. 1174 00:57:39,400 --> 00:57:41,520 Um... Yeah. 1175 00:57:41,640 --> 00:57:43,200 Thank you. Pleasure. 1176 00:57:43,320 --> 00:57:45,680 (LAUGHS) (WARM MUSIC PLAYS) 1177 00:57:45,800 --> 00:57:50,000 Well, you got real on this couch tonight. 1178 00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:51,520 It was great. 1179 00:57:51,640 --> 00:57:54,760 And on that note, we're going to go to a decision. 1180 00:57:54,880 --> 00:57:56,640 Stay or leave? You're up first, Stella. 1181 00:57:56,760 --> 00:57:58,480 Um... Obviously not a surprise. 1182 00:57:58,600 --> 00:58:01,520 And I think I drew a love heart from very early on. 1183 00:58:01,640 --> 00:58:04,160 (LAUGHS) Nice. 1184 00:58:04,280 --> 00:58:07,800 And what about you, Filip? Uh... I'm not going anywhere. 1185 00:58:07,920 --> 00:58:12,200 Just started. We're staying. That's what we like to see. 1186 00:58:12,320 --> 00:58:14,720 (APPLAUSE) Love you, baby. 1187 00:58:14,840 --> 00:58:16,800 Thanks for being you. Thanks for being you. 1188 00:58:16,920 --> 00:58:18,360 Yeah. You are a team. 1189 00:58:18,480 --> 00:58:19,840 BOTH: Yeah. And you've got this. 1190 00:58:19,960 --> 00:58:21,120 Yeah. Thank you. Thanks, guys. 1191 00:58:21,240 --> 00:58:22,680 I really, really appreciate it. 1192 00:58:22,800 --> 00:58:24,240 I really appreciate you whole way through. 1193 00:58:24,360 --> 00:58:25,920 (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE) MEL: Well done, you two. 1194 00:58:26,040 --> 00:58:28,160 Thank you. Great work. 1195 00:58:28,280 --> 00:58:30,400 (WARM MUSIC PLAYS) 1196 00:58:36,840 --> 00:58:38,640 Show me. 1197 00:58:38,760 --> 00:58:41,640 ALESSANDRA: Our last couple up on the couch... 1198 00:58:42,960 --> 00:58:45,520 Gia and Scott. (APPLAUSE) 1199 00:58:45,640 --> 00:58:48,440 (TENSE MUSIC PLAYS) 1200 00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:49,920 SCOTT: Good evening. MEL: Hello. 1201 00:58:50,040 --> 00:58:51,520 Hello. How are you? 1202 00:58:51,640 --> 00:58:53,640 Good. Hi, Gia. GIA: Hello. 1203 00:58:53,760 --> 00:58:57,120 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1204 00:58:57,240 --> 00:58:58,680 So, how are you guys? 1205 00:58:58,800 --> 00:59:00,840 Alright. Um... 1206 00:59:00,960 --> 00:59:02,760 Getting a bit nervous. 1207 00:59:02,880 --> 00:59:04,880 (TENSE MUSIC PLAYS) 1208 00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:15,200 So, you know... 1209 00:59:17,640 --> 00:59:19,920 I care so much about Gia. 1210 00:59:21,160 --> 00:59:24,200 What I'm going to talk about tonight is... I don't want you to be upset. 1211 00:59:24,320 --> 00:59:25,600 OK. 1212 00:59:25,720 --> 00:59:30,320 What I'm going to talk about is feelings where...I... 1213 00:59:36,040 --> 00:59:37,480 (GULPS) 1214 00:59:37,600 --> 00:59:39,440 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1215 00:59:42,120 --> 00:59:43,960 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1216 00:59:46,200 --> 00:59:49,720 What I'm going to talk about tonight is... I don't want you to be upset. 1217 00:59:49,840 --> 00:59:51,400 OK. 1218 00:59:51,520 --> 00:59:55,880 What I'm going to talk about is feelings where...I... 1219 00:59:59,680 --> 01:00:02,120 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1220 01:00:04,640 --> 01:00:06,680 It's a weakness of mine. 1221 01:00:08,280 --> 01:00:12,800 When I care about someone so much, I feel like I can't speak my voice 1222 01:00:12,920 --> 01:00:14,160 when I have a concern 1223 01:00:14,280 --> 01:00:15,360 and it's a weakness of mine. 1224 01:00:15,480 --> 01:00:17,560 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1225 01:00:17,680 --> 01:00:20,880 What I find so far is I haven't been able to address a concern 1226 01:00:21,000 --> 01:00:24,200 without Gia and I having an argument or her spiralling. 1227 01:00:24,320 --> 01:00:26,640 Let's say that you want to bring something up 1228 01:00:26,760 --> 01:00:29,880 and Gia is not in the mood to hear, for whatever reason... 1229 01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:31,960 Mm. 1230 01:00:32,080 --> 01:00:33,800 ..you find yourself simply cowering away from that 1231 01:00:33,920 --> 01:00:35,640 and not returning to that topic? 1232 01:00:37,920 --> 01:00:39,240 Pretty much. 1233 01:00:39,360 --> 01:00:43,240 What have you observed about Gia's behaviour 1234 01:00:43,360 --> 01:00:44,840 that leads you to have that reaction 1235 01:00:47,000 --> 01:00:49,080 What kind of things could she say? 1236 01:00:49,200 --> 01:00:51,960 (REFLECTIVE MUSIC PLAYS) (HALF-LAUGHS) 1237 01:00:56,160 --> 01:00:57,920 Can I please just say things 1238 01:00:58,040 --> 01:01:01,560 that can make someone feel pretty defeated and let down... 1239 01:01:01,680 --> 01:01:03,200 Such as? Um... 1240 01:01:04,520 --> 01:01:07,400 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1241 01:01:07,520 --> 01:01:12,200 Honestly, if you can't speak honestl in front of Gia 1242 01:01:12,320 --> 01:01:13,880 about the things that she does 1243 01:01:14,000 --> 01:01:16,360 and say that hurt you or scare you or make you feel off... 1244 01:01:16,480 --> 01:01:17,560 Well, he has. 1245 01:01:22,000 --> 01:01:25,360 ..then I'm really, really, really concerned about the possibility 1246 01:01:25,480 --> 01:01:27,520 of this relationship surviving outside the experiment. 1247 01:01:27,640 --> 01:01:29,600 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1248 01:01:42,040 --> 01:01:43,600 JOHN: Scott. Yeah. 1249 01:01:43,720 --> 01:01:46,360 We've got all night. I know we have... 1250 01:01:46,480 --> 01:01:47,840 we're not going anywhere. 1251 01:01:47,960 --> 01:01:49,800 We're going to sit here and ask you uncomfortable questions 1252 01:01:49,920 --> 01:01:52,240 until you come clean. 1253 01:01:52,360 --> 01:01:53,160 OK? 1254 01:01:55,920 --> 01:01:57,480 So if you don't let us in... I know. 1255 01:01:57,600 --> 01:01:59,080 ..you're not going to last. 1256 01:01:59,200 --> 01:02:00,720 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1257 01:02:00,840 --> 01:02:02,640 What I'm seeing here is fake. 1258 01:02:02,760 --> 01:02:04,640 I'm going to call you out. 1259 01:02:04,760 --> 01:02:06,880 I've seen it the entire experiment. 1260 01:02:07,000 --> 01:02:11,480 You talk about things in a way where you don't give us 1261 01:02:11,600 --> 01:02:13,360 any of the information. 1262 01:02:13,480 --> 01:02:16,400 You skirt around the issues. I get it. 1263 01:02:16,520 --> 01:02:19,320 You're trying to fly under the radar 1264 01:02:19,440 --> 01:02:21,200 but what we're saying tonight is that ends. 1265 01:02:21,320 --> 01:02:23,080 Yep. OK? 1266 01:02:23,200 --> 01:02:26,240 You sat down here, you're petrified of Gia 1267 01:02:26,360 --> 01:02:28,480 and you're not answering the questions. 1268 01:02:28,600 --> 01:02:30,880 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1269 01:02:33,560 --> 01:02:35,000 ALESSANDRA: So I'm going to ask you again, Scott, 1270 01:02:35,120 --> 01:02:37,960 what kind of things could Gia say 1271 01:02:38,080 --> 01:02:41,800 that would make you feel fearful of speaking up? 1272 01:02:41,920 --> 01:02:44,720 So this is probably the most major concern. 1273 01:02:46,520 --> 01:02:47,960 It could happen probably on average once a week. 1274 01:02:48,080 --> 01:02:50,840 I feel like there's a bit of pressure of me to say I'm in love 1275 01:02:50,960 --> 01:02:54,280 and when I don't say it, Gia will tend to spiral 1276 01:02:54,400 --> 01:02:56,560 and say things like, "You're a con. 1277 01:02:56,680 --> 01:02:58,080 "You're not a man, you're not a provider." 1278 01:02:58,200 --> 01:03:00,320 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) "You don't give me reassurance." 1279 01:03:02,520 --> 01:03:04,280 Pretty much every name under the sun, right? 1280 01:03:07,920 --> 01:03:10,480 Gia, babe... The reason why I'm here 1281 01:03:10,600 --> 01:03:13,000 is because I know she doesn't intentionally mean it. 1282 01:03:13,120 --> 01:03:14,640 It's because it comes from a place of hurt. 1283 01:03:14,760 --> 01:03:16,800 I'll explain that. You talk for yourself. 1284 01:03:16,920 --> 01:03:22,000 And I just will explain, "Babe, like, listen to what you're saying. 1285 01:03:22,120 --> 01:03:24,840 "I know you don't mean it. Like, where's this coming from?" 1286 01:03:24,960 --> 01:03:26,920 And, like, I don't know what it is. I just don't know. 1287 01:03:28,080 --> 01:03:30,680 When you're having that situation... Yeah. 1288 01:03:30,800 --> 01:03:33,200 ..and there are things that are bein said, how do you feel in that moment 1289 01:03:33,320 --> 01:03:35,920 In these moments that you're describing now, 1290 01:03:36,040 --> 01:03:38,120 that...where she's coming at you personally. 1291 01:03:40,040 --> 01:03:41,920 I just feel like when it's... 1292 01:03:42,040 --> 01:03:44,200 I just feel completely destroyed, like I'm worthless. 1293 01:03:44,320 --> 01:03:46,600 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) That's pretty major. 1294 01:03:48,000 --> 01:03:51,160 But I just want Gia to know that I care so much about her. 1295 01:03:51,280 --> 01:03:53,480 My feelings are strong. I'm falling for her. 1296 01:03:53,600 --> 01:03:54,840 But when these things happen, 1297 01:03:54,960 --> 01:03:56,360 it pulls me back and it holds me back. 1298 01:03:56,480 --> 01:03:58,440 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1299 01:03:58,560 --> 01:04:01,760 And so, Gia, what do you think 1300 01:04:01,880 --> 01:04:07,240 when you're feeling threatened or not happy with what Scott says, 1301 01:04:07,360 --> 01:04:09,840 that you attack him? 1302 01:04:09,960 --> 01:04:11,840 What is that about for you? 1303 01:04:11,960 --> 01:04:14,200 This is a man that you're falling in love with 1304 01:04:14,320 --> 01:04:16,000 from every indication I've had. 1305 01:04:16,120 --> 01:04:19,080 Well, I'll just say it out loud. 1306 01:04:19,200 --> 01:04:22,320 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1307 01:04:22,440 --> 01:04:24,000 This wasn't on camera. 1308 01:04:24,120 --> 01:04:25,720 I told him I'm in love with him yesterday. 1309 01:04:27,760 --> 01:04:29,080 So this is a man you love? 1310 01:04:29,200 --> 01:04:32,000 Yep. So where does that come from? 1311 01:04:32,120 --> 01:04:38,720 So, for me, um...I've felt this way for Scott for the last few weeks 1312 01:04:38,840 --> 01:04:43,800 and there's been so many moments where, like, I wanted to say it 1313 01:04:43,920 --> 01:04:46,200 and I'm, like, "You can't be the girl who says it first." 1314 01:04:46,320 --> 01:04:48,360 Usually it's been the guy who said it first, 1315 01:04:48,480 --> 01:04:51,000 so this is weird for me 1316 01:04:51,120 --> 01:04:53,280 and I've wanted him to know why I've been spiralling. 1317 01:04:53,400 --> 01:04:54,600 It's because of this. 1318 01:04:54,720 --> 01:04:56,320 Like, I've been wanting to say it and I know he's not there 1319 01:04:56,440 --> 01:04:58,040 and it's frustrating for me because I feel rejected, 1320 01:04:58,160 --> 01:05:00,480 to be honest. 1321 01:05:00,600 --> 01:05:02,480 The leading up to where you're having these big feelings 1322 01:05:02,600 --> 01:05:03,760 and that's what's making you feel like, 1323 01:05:03,880 --> 01:05:04,920 "Oh, my god, he's going to reject me..." 1324 01:05:05,040 --> 01:05:06,760 Mm. ..why go hurt him? 1325 01:05:08,280 --> 01:05:09,360 Because I felt hurt. 1326 01:05:10,600 --> 01:05:11,800 And I was, like, "Let me hurt him." 1327 01:05:11,920 --> 01:05:13,720 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1328 01:05:13,840 --> 01:05:16,160 That's the truth. 1329 01:05:18,600 --> 01:05:21,360 That's a pretty big revelation 1330 01:05:21,480 --> 01:05:25,200 and also hurdle for Scott to have to handle 1331 01:05:25,320 --> 01:05:27,520 and walk around eggshells 1332 01:05:27,640 --> 01:05:31,240 trying to not have you have this reaction. 1333 01:05:31,360 --> 01:05:33,080 I just think this is very new for me. 1334 01:05:33,200 --> 01:05:35,080 I haven't ever been in this situation before. 1335 01:05:35,200 --> 01:05:38,480 But in this situation of saying that you're hurt 1336 01:05:38,600 --> 01:05:40,520 and therefore you're choosing to hurt back, 1337 01:05:40,640 --> 01:05:43,640 is that the way that you normally are? 1338 01:05:43,760 --> 01:05:45,280 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1339 01:05:45,400 --> 01:05:46,400 No. 1340 01:05:48,040 --> 01:05:50,720 I'm gonna insist and underline this 1341 01:05:50,840 --> 01:05:53,960 because I really want you to take in, Gia, 1342 01:05:54,080 --> 01:05:56,000 that we can absolutely see 1343 01:05:56,120 --> 01:05:58,640 how strong your relationship with Scott is, 1344 01:05:58,760 --> 01:06:00,800 but it is a pattern that you're bringing to the table 1345 01:06:00,920 --> 01:06:02,080 that you need to break, 1346 01:06:02,200 --> 01:06:06,160 because it will be the thing that makes him run the other way. 1347 01:06:06,280 --> 01:06:08,760 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1348 01:06:19,040 --> 01:06:20,960 ALESSANDRA: The leading up to where you're having these big feelings 1349 01:06:21,080 --> 01:06:22,520 and that's what's making you feel like, 1350 01:06:22,640 --> 01:06:23,920 "Oh, my god, he's going to reject me..." 1351 01:06:24,040 --> 01:06:26,880 GIA: Mm. ..why go hurt him? 1352 01:06:28,280 --> 01:06:29,480 Because I felt hurt. 1353 01:06:30,800 --> 01:06:32,160 And I was, like, "Let me hurt him." 1354 01:06:32,280 --> 01:06:34,080 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1355 01:06:34,200 --> 01:06:35,360 That's the truth. 1356 01:06:36,960 --> 01:06:39,520 I'm gonna insist and underline this, 1357 01:06:39,640 --> 01:06:42,560 because I really want you to take in, Gia, 1358 01:06:42,680 --> 01:06:45,600 that it is a pattern that you're bringing to the table 1359 01:06:45,720 --> 01:06:46,720 that you need to break, 1360 01:06:46,840 --> 01:06:50,640 because it will be the thing that makes him run the other way. 1361 01:06:50,760 --> 01:06:52,840 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1362 01:06:57,040 --> 01:07:00,160 Do you feel secure in your relationship with Scott? 1363 01:07:02,880 --> 01:07:04,640 Um... 1364 01:07:07,080 --> 01:07:08,840 Like, yes and no. 1365 01:07:10,320 --> 01:07:11,400 Why no? 1366 01:07:13,440 --> 01:07:15,560 I don't know, because, like, 1367 01:07:15,680 --> 01:07:18,520 sometimes I can't bring something up because I'm argumentative 1368 01:07:18,640 --> 01:07:22,600 or...so I don't feel like I'm secure with him and I can be myself. 1369 01:07:22,720 --> 01:07:25,320 So that and, like, he doesn't feel as strong as I feel. 1370 01:07:26,760 --> 01:07:28,200 Like, well, he could just leave. 1371 01:07:30,640 --> 01:07:31,760 Am I going to move for like? 1372 01:07:31,880 --> 01:07:33,680 Am I going to take my daughter out of her school in Melbourne 1373 01:07:33,800 --> 01:07:35,320 and move to the Gold Coast if he just likes me? 1374 01:07:35,440 --> 01:07:37,240 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1375 01:07:38,640 --> 01:07:41,920 Just don't feel as secure as maybe I could in the relationship. 1376 01:07:43,000 --> 01:07:45,520 So there's still room there for you to grow 1377 01:07:45,640 --> 01:07:47,480 in terms of security... Yeah. 1378 01:07:47,600 --> 01:07:49,600 in the relationship. 1379 01:07:49,720 --> 01:07:53,000 How does it make you feel to hear Gia say 1380 01:07:53,120 --> 01:07:55,200 that she doesn't feel secure in the relationship? 1381 01:07:55,320 --> 01:07:57,240 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1382 01:07:58,280 --> 01:08:00,760 I'm confused 'cause Gia tells me that she feels secure. 1383 01:08:00,880 --> 01:08:05,560 I try and tick all the boxes to make her know 1384 01:08:05,680 --> 01:08:07,600 and reassure her that I'm all in on this. 1385 01:08:07,720 --> 01:08:09,480 And, like, when we have tough times, 1386 01:08:09,600 --> 01:08:11,360 like, I just keep telling you I'm here for you. 1387 01:08:11,480 --> 01:08:12,640 I want to be the shoulder to cry on. 1388 01:08:12,760 --> 01:08:14,680 And, like, you know, whenever there is bad things, 1389 01:08:14,800 --> 01:08:18,840 maybe sometimes I say, like, "I don't want to hear it" 1390 01:08:18,960 --> 01:08:20,320 or something like that, but, you know... 1391 01:08:20,440 --> 01:08:21,640 Well, that's why I don't feel secure... 1392 01:08:21,760 --> 01:08:24,360 (TENSE MUSIC PLAYS) 1393 01:08:24,480 --> 01:08:26,520 ..because I'm, like, "Well, I can't bring that up." 1394 01:08:26,640 --> 01:08:29,680 So, like, how do I...how can I be vulnerable and feel safe, 1395 01:08:29,800 --> 01:08:31,240 because it's swept under the rug, you know. 1396 01:08:33,320 --> 01:08:34,840 You shut down my feelings a lot of the time. 1397 01:08:34,960 --> 01:08:37,640 I'd like to defend myself. I've never shut down your feelings, Gia. 1398 01:08:37,760 --> 01:08:38,720 OK. Never. 1399 01:08:38,840 --> 01:08:40,160 Well, that's my perception... OK. 1400 01:08:40,280 --> 01:08:42,160 ..and I feel like sometimes we'll talk about something 1401 01:08:42,280 --> 01:08:44,280 and you just don't listen 1402 01:08:44,400 --> 01:08:46,560 and so then I just stop talking about it 1403 01:08:46,680 --> 01:08:49,040 'cause he says I'm arguing. 1404 01:08:49,160 --> 01:08:50,320 And I'm, like, "OK, well, I just, like... 1405 01:08:50,440 --> 01:08:52,320 "I'll just forget my feelings, let's just leave it" 1406 01:08:52,440 --> 01:08:55,360 'cause then my brain is like, "Oh, my god, you're arguing again. 1407 01:08:55,480 --> 01:08:56,680 "He's not going to fall in love with you." 1408 01:08:56,800 --> 01:09:00,760 And it's, like...it's, like, I can't win, to be honest. 1409 01:09:00,880 --> 01:09:02,920 That's how I feel. 1410 01:09:03,040 --> 01:09:06,280 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1411 01:09:06,400 --> 01:09:08,440 JOHN: Well, at last 1412 01:09:08,560 --> 01:09:11,920 we've got the real Scott and Gia sitting in front of us. 1413 01:09:12,040 --> 01:09:17,160 And isn't it interesting that week after week, 1414 01:09:17,280 --> 01:09:18,800 you guys have sat here and said, "Everything's fine. 1415 01:09:18,920 --> 01:09:20,920 "We're a great couple." 1416 01:09:21,040 --> 01:09:25,920 Tonight...you're exposing yourselves 1417 01:09:26,040 --> 01:09:29,360 and everything isn't great between the two of you. 1418 01:09:29,480 --> 01:09:33,360 Scott nearly couldn't breathe tonigh 1419 01:09:33,480 --> 01:09:36,120 'cause he was so scared about bringing an issue up with you, Gia. 1420 01:09:38,040 --> 01:09:39,360 That's not healthy. 1421 01:09:40,680 --> 01:09:44,200 So it comes down to the two of you. 1422 01:09:44,320 --> 01:09:48,120 Are you prepared to do the work, hear things you might not like? 1423 01:09:48,240 --> 01:09:50,080 But know that when you hear those feelings, 1424 01:09:50,200 --> 01:09:53,600 you get closer, not further away. 1425 01:09:54,960 --> 01:09:58,080 But you've got to be real over this next week, 1426 01:09:58,200 --> 01:10:00,760 otherwise it is going to slip through your fingers. 1427 01:10:04,560 --> 01:10:07,640 We're going to go to the decision - stay or leave? 1428 01:10:07,760 --> 01:10:10,440 And we'll go with you first, Gia. 1429 01:10:10,560 --> 01:10:16,840 Um... Yeah, I think we needed to have this conversation tonight 1430 01:10:16,960 --> 01:10:18,760 because we're at the end. 1431 01:10:18,880 --> 01:10:20,920 I don't want to have any questions unanswered. 1432 01:10:21,040 --> 01:10:24,000 And that's the same with me saying that I love him. 1433 01:10:24,120 --> 01:10:27,560 I just wanted to just be fully in. 1434 01:10:27,680 --> 01:10:32,240 So, anyways, with that, we'll take on your advice this week 1435 01:10:32,360 --> 01:10:34,920 and I'm going to stay. 1436 01:10:35,040 --> 01:10:37,360 Mm. Love that. 1437 01:10:37,480 --> 01:10:39,680 What have you got, Scott? Stay or leave? 1438 01:10:39,800 --> 01:10:42,200 Obviously we've come so far in this experiment 1439 01:10:42,320 --> 01:10:45,680 and I honestly appreciate the three of you for what you've done for us 1440 01:10:45,800 --> 01:10:46,920 and how you paired us. 1441 01:10:47,040 --> 01:10:50,280 And I was nervous walking in tonight and I don't get nervous. 1442 01:10:50,400 --> 01:10:55,640 And I feel so light right now 'cause we can both have our say 1443 01:10:55,760 --> 01:10:59,360 and I can...I can tell you right now this is going to help us so much, 1444 01:10:59,480 --> 01:11:01,160 so I'm excited for this week 1445 01:11:01,280 --> 01:11:05,120 'cause I just feel so happy just after this conversation, 1446 01:11:05,240 --> 01:11:08,320 so I'm staying, in the sun, 'cause we're going to sunny Gold Coast. 1447 01:11:08,440 --> 01:11:09,760 (MEL LAUGHS) (APPLAUSE) 1448 01:11:09,880 --> 01:11:11,480 JOHN: Alright, you two. 1449 01:11:13,680 --> 01:11:15,680 So it's a big week coming up for the two of you. 1450 01:11:15,800 --> 01:11:18,960 And I know it's hard for you as a couple, 1451 01:11:19,080 --> 01:11:21,000 but when issues get brought up this week, 1452 01:11:21,120 --> 01:11:22,880 when you talk about the big stuff, 1453 01:11:23,000 --> 01:11:26,680 try and be curious as opposed to defensive. 1454 01:11:29,280 --> 01:11:30,680 Alright. Good luck. Thank you. 1455 01:11:30,800 --> 01:11:33,160 (APPLAUSE) MEL: Good work. 1456 01:11:36,800 --> 01:11:38,240 Oi... 1457 01:11:45,680 --> 01:11:46,880 Mm-hm. 1458 01:11:47,000 --> 01:11:49,600 Mm-hm? (LAUGHS) 1459 01:11:51,880 --> 01:11:53,960 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1460 01:12:00,280 --> 01:12:02,520 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1461 01:12:07,200 --> 01:12:08,720 NARRATOR: Tomorrow night... 1462 01:12:08,840 --> 01:12:10,000 FILIP: What is going on here? 1463 01:12:10,120 --> 01:12:11,800 Chenelle? MAN: Shannon. 1464 01:12:11,920 --> 01:12:13,240 Oh, no! 1465 01:12:13,360 --> 01:12:14,240 What? 1466 01:12:16,440 --> 01:12:18,960 WOMEN: What? 1467 01:12:19,080 --> 01:12:22,040 During the matchmaking process, there was more than one person 1468 01:12:22,160 --> 01:12:23,880 that our participants were compatible with. 1469 01:12:24,000 --> 01:12:26,520 ..the unforgettable final test is back... 1470 01:12:26,640 --> 01:12:28,240 Oh, my god. 1471 01:12:28,360 --> 01:12:31,400 It is the ultimate test of trust and security. 1472 01:12:31,520 --> 01:12:36,840 ..and this season, the experts have upped the ante like never before. 1473 01:12:36,960 --> 01:12:40,040 We are removing the element of choice from the final test. 1474 01:12:40,160 --> 01:12:42,240 Over two incredible nights... 1475 01:12:42,360 --> 01:12:45,120 DAVID: I feel sick. I feel like I'm going to pass out. 1476 01:12:47,120 --> 01:12:51,480 ..all our participants will meet their alternative matches. 1477 01:12:54,920 --> 01:12:58,480 Some will more than enjoy the fresh perspective... 1478 01:12:59,920 --> 01:13:01,480 (LAUGHTER) 1479 01:13:03,520 --> 01:13:05,960 No! (LAUGHS) 1480 01:13:06,080 --> 01:13:07,560 ..before... 1481 01:13:07,680 --> 01:13:09,720 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) 1482 01:13:09,840 --> 01:13:15,760 ..the biggest twist the experiment's ever seen. 1483 01:13:15,880 --> 01:13:16,920 Is the grass greener? 1484 01:13:18,360 --> 01:13:20,040 (LAUGHTER) 1485 01:13:20,160 --> 01:13:21,920 That is disgusting. 1486 01:13:22,040 --> 01:13:24,320 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS) Holy... (BLEEP). 1487 01:13:28,360 --> 01:13:31,360 Captioned by AI-Media ai-media.tv